How do I get the girl I want?

branbbllkd23 · #1 Jul 29, 2007, 05:45 PM

Well I'm 15 and i really want a GF cuz i havent had one in a while and its just soo hard for me cuz im soo self conscience about myself and the way I look. Everytime I'm about to attempt asking a girl out i get really nervous and choked up and i end up not doing it. So how do I ask ask a girl out without getting choked up and really nervous and getting the girl i want, instead of embarissing myself.

GlindaofOz · Jul 29, 2007, 05:47 PM

It sounds like you are getting yourself so worked up that you are psyching yourself out. Maybe you are focusing on being rejected instead of her accepting? Try to relax and be confident about it, nothing is more attractive to a girl then a boy who is confident. Maybe get yourself worked up in your head like yeah I'm going ask this girl out and she is going to say yes and it will be awesome.

jrb252000 · Jul 29, 2007, 06:19 PM

I would just try to relax the worst she can say to you is that she isn't intrested...and if she does tell yourself it is her lose and move on to the next girl.

servantpsa119 · Jul 29, 2007, 06:20 PM

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Originally Posted by branbbllkd23

Well I'm 15 and i really want a GF cuz i havent had one in a while and its just soo hard for me cuz im soo self conscience about myself and the way I look. Everytime I'm about to attempt asking a girl out i get really nervous and choked up and i end up not doing it. So how do I ask ask a girl out without getting choked up and really nervous and getting the girl i want, instead of embarissing myself.

If you meet the girl that you really feel a connection to, it will make you feel less nervous and anxious. And my advise for any relationship, is that you be friends first. If you want a relationship to last you have to like each other. Trying hanging out in groups with mutual friends, etc. This will help you get to know each other better.

LearningAsIGo · Jul 30, 2007, 07:46 AM

Confidence will look good to anyone. Just walk up to a girl you're already familiar with, and say: "I'm going bowling Saturday with some friends, do you wanna go?"
Just make it as causal as possible... if she says no, then so what? Her loss, you'll find a better one.

OR, go out with friends and if you see a girl(s) you like, invite them to join you (walking around the mall, movie, bowling, mini golf, whatever!)
Good luck

klovesj110603 · Jul 30, 2007, 07:53 AM

really good answers above!!! i would first of all love myself. U have to be happy with who u are first in life. If girls see ur ok with who u r it will probably make the whole situation go over much better. You are young dont let that stress u out so bad. Just be a teen and have fun with life. Those years go by too quick and u will miss them when they are gone.



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