when do you know you found the one 4 you?

andrea94 · #1 Jul 30, 2007, 07:51 AM

im single right now bout how do you now when that somebody is perfect 4 you see i have turned down alot of guys since i broke up with my ex boyfirend now i seem to say no to everyone cause i worry they wont be like my ex boyfirend i gess thats because i really loved him.but im trying to move on...so how do i know when i found him????
please help!!!!

GlindaofOz · Jul 30, 2007, 08:00 AM

I think you are putting the cart before the horse. If you are comparing guys to your ex then your not over him yet, which is fine you take as long as you need to feel ready to date again. When you are ready just relax and go out and have fun. Don't worry about the one. You will know when you find him.

tkdgal · Jul 30, 2007, 08:04 AM

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Originally Posted by andrea94

im single right now bout how do you now when that somebody is perfect 4 you see i have turned down alot of guys since i broke up with my ex boyfirend now i seem to say no to everyone cause i worry they wont be like my ex boyfirend i gess thats because i really loved him.but im trying to move on...so how do i know when i found him????
please help!!!!

My first reaction is wondering why you would want any of your upcoming boyfriends to like an EX boyfriend (he's your EX!). Breaking up a relationship is usually the result of a fault in somebody, not because you're madly in love with each other. You are most likely turning down guys because you may fear that the relationship won't last, just like your previous one. However, if you want to move on like you say you do, I would suggest actually giving a couple of these guys a try. Letting that fear control you won't let you move on at all, so you must control the fear. I'm not saying you have to respond yes to everyone that asks you out, just the ones that seem like generally good matches for you. Don't rush into anything, though. Get to know the person before really dating them, or else you might end up with the wrong guy, and it'll just make you more frustrated. Relationships take patience, confidence, and the willingness to step up and take the chance. So don't let one thing keep you from the next

. Good luck!

nicespringgirl · Jul 30, 2007, 08:23 AM

How old are you now?

LearningAsIGo · Jul 30, 2007, 08:37 AM

Since you're not over your Ex, its good you aren't dating. You're not ready to move on yet, so don't try to force the issue.

The right person for you is your best friend, has similar moral beliefs, and life with them is "easy" not hard. However, at your age, just have fun and don't worry to much about it. Finding "The One" takes time and its hard to put it into words... sometimes its just a mutal feeling.



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