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I just got off a long relationship. Recently , I have been talking to two guys A and B
A used to be my high school sweetheart, i was totally in love with him and still feel the same love after 15 years apart.
B was a relationship all about sex. we were very physically attracted to each other. but never actually dated. and the same attraction is still present.
I have been speaking to both of them and the same feelings are still there. do I need to choose one or can I keep both.
It's not there are only 2 men in the world but if you must choose between JUST the two of them.... go with love... respect... similarities... things that will actually get you through life...
Sex... isn't life....
Not many things can get us through life....
LOTS of things out there to get us through sex :0)
I can't believe you asked if you "can keep both"! You make these guys sound like puppies, not men.
If guy A feels the same way about you that you say you do about him, then he deserves someone who truly does love him and thats not you. If you truly did love this man, wanting to be physical with anyone else is not something you would even consider.
I think perhaps you need to step in to A or B's shoes and think would THEY like you to have both? Not many people i know would like to have competition with the person they like/love. Yes it is your decision whether you have more than one partner, however it has too much potential to become over complex- MY opinion.. u may agree or disagree.
I agree with the above comments though, mind over sex. I had a relationship which was mostly sexual attraction and it didnt last at all even though it was the most memorable. Mind over sex any day
if you are haveing a hard time choseing bewteen the two why not sit down and write a lsit of the good for A and the bad for A and then do the same for B and see wich one out weighs the other in the things your are llooking for in them
Riiiiight.... monogamy (or lets just use marriage as an example), because lets face it a "break up" between a monogamous couple that has been together for YEARS is like a divorce without the paperwork).....
And what is the #2 reason for the High break up/divorce rate in this country?????
Infidelity.... that's right.... monogamy gone wrong, because obviously someone in that relationship forgot what it meant.
But I'm not going to take over her post and keep arguing about it.
I just think it was WRONG that you snap at her for asking if she can keep them both.
Maybe having 2 boyfriends is an option for her.....
Riiiiight.... monogamy (or lets just use marriage as an example), because lets face it a "break up" between a monogamous couple that has been together for YEARS is like a divorce without the paperwork).....
And what is the #2 reason for the High break up/divorce rate in this country?????
Infidelity.... that's right.... monogamy gone wrong, because obviously someone in that relationship forgot what it meant.
But I'm not going to take over her post and keep arguing about it.
I just think it was WRONG that you snap at her for asking if she can keep them both.
Maybe having 2 boyfriends is an option for her.....
Confused (I now understand your pick for your on-line name), I was not snapping in my post earlier nor was I criticizing her, although you choose to believe so. I was stunned however at the question. Of course, as you have stated, having 2 boyfriends is an option for her, as it is with many women, and is totally her choice. But my point was, is that the option that is the best when you consider how it will effect your life in all the areas I mentioned in my earlier post?
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