This guy and I have always been attracted to each other, we dated a couple of times, the attraction was strong, but we never kissed or took it further because he had just relocated to a new country. 5 months later I have also moved to the same country (not because of him) but for a fantastic oppourtunity, anyway, he knew I was moving over.. we recently caught up and I find he has a girlfriend..

I know we were never officially together, and I also dated too in the time apart.. but nothing serious, because I knew it I was moving.. but my question is, how come he didn't wait to see how things pan out with me at all since he knew I was moving over? I am just left a little shocked..

isabelgopo

why dont you ask him? since you didnt move for him but for the good opportunity, he probably has no clue of what your intentions are. Men are pretty simple when it comes to relationships.

Fr_Chuck

With it all, you dated, he dated and his perhaps became more serious.
Since the two of you did not have a formal relastionship he had no reason to wait. This is something y ou have to talk to him about

asking

How disappointing! I can't know what he was thinking, of course. But here's a guess. Some people show a lot more enthusiasm for other people than they actually feel--that's how they flirt. He may have had the same "mutual attraction" for half a dozen other women. I'm guessing your guy felt that you were just one of several possibilities and a long shot at that. He didn't know if you would actually come over.

I remember spending a wonderful evening once with someone from another country and I thought we really liked each other. I was kind of smitten. (No touching or kissing though). When he got home I wrote to him a couple of times and he didn't even answer. Later, I found out he was married, which he had somehow neglected to mention...

I think you should count your blessings that he found someone else because he probably would have made you unhappy. You seem to have different assumptions about relationships. I say this with sympathy, as I'm more of a one guy at a time type myself.

Congratulations on your new job! I am sure you'll meet someone else. Good luck!