how can we fix it

cutie08 · #1 Sep 14, 2006, 12:10 PM

ok so i have this new boyfriend and i really really like him alot and he tells me he likes me alot we have been dating for a mounth well almost two now and we are like perfect for each other but there is two problems
1. i always feel as tho he is going to leave me i mean he talls me he wont and he never could but i dunno in the back of my mind i feel like he is going to. when i confront him aobut it he tells me hes not but i dunno just sometimes his attitude makes it seem like he is going to and it kills me alot so ya

2. he tells me that he always has dreams that im going to leave him for his ex and he believes this even tho i tell him im never going to but its like we both have the same worries for each other

how can we fix this

mysticque · Sep 14, 2006, 07:53 PM

too much loving and insecurities. sorry but I can't help it. just stayfree, enjoy while he's around. but if you really can't help it nag him about it then soon he'll leave you for your own sake.

Krs · Sep 15, 2006, 06:49 AM

You sound like 2 fresh love birds going through an insecurity stage, hopefully this stage will soon fly by.

You have to both learn to treasure the time you are together = THE PRESENT.
Stop worrying about the future or the past.
Live your life together for now, enjoy the moments

AKaeTrue · Sep 17, 2006, 01:06 AM

Just like Krs said...
If you both are constantly worrying about whether or not the other is going to leave or stay, then you defeat the whole purpose of enjoying one anothers company right here and now. Worrying about these matters so early on is unhealthy and will lead to an unstable relationship.
Have one last final talk about the situation and where the both of you would like to see the relationship go. Discus your feelings about the attitude he has that concerns you; you might find out that it has nothing to do with you and the relationship, but possibly that it is family life or a bad day at work causing his gloominess. Then both of you decide together to leave all the negative feelings behind and go forward with enjoying the happiness of a new relationship. You could be having sooo much fun without all the baggage of worries.
Having fun, enjoying each other, discovering who and what this new person in your life is all about, is the core to a successful, long lasting relationship.
You will both feel more secure with one another once all the worries are out of the way, your relationship will then be able to grow in a positive direction. So, please give this a try and let us know what becomes of it.



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