should i stay or go?

addictivepoison · #1 Nov 19, 2008, 10:45 PM

i've been with my bf for almost a yr now; and all we do is fight! im not sure im suppose to fix it, im not even sure if i can. we fight over nothing.. when i want to discuss and talk about it, his always too tired!

roxypox · Nov 20, 2008, 03:45 AM

that is really really sad!! they say that the whole newly-in-love thing is sepouse to last for about a year. when did the fighting start?

i know you prob love him, but do you think that it can be fixed?

i went through a similar problem. my recent x and i we started fighting about 3-4 months into the relationship and then he told me that we might not really fit together, but that he didn't want to make a mistake by dumping me... so we started haveing a "lets-see-from-month-to-month" realtionshipo instead. which really hurt and was a terrible situation!

maybe its time to move on?

blfabila5 · Nov 20, 2008, 06:41 AM

I have been with my guy for a year also and we fussed alot about dumb stuff also but I am usually the one that starts it. When I realize that what I am arguing about is dumb then I apoligize and leave it alone. I really don't like to talk about it after it done happend. Your question is "should you stay or go"? Will that is up to you. Maybe there is more to your fighting like maybe stress or something is bothering you or him and just letting it out on eachother. You both need to talk about why you argue alot and if you can fix it or even want to fix the problem. Me and my man has and we dont argue like we used to. All I can say is communicate with eachother and if he doesnt want to then maybe he doesnt care about having a better relationship. In that case I would move on bc you can't work on the relationship by yourself. You don't want to be in a relationship where you only argue bc it's not healthy. Good luck.

De4rest · Nov 20, 2008, 10:23 PM

It sounds that this rel. will never work! because he does not even want to make it work girl! it has to be both of you that want to make your relationship goes well. If it is only you making the effort, you will eventually be tired of it and at some point burn out. Just tell him straight out that if he is not willing to talk about it then you'll have to decide to let him go or at least say take a break to think over about what cause the fights. Try to be nice to him once or twice and if he still does not want to discuss about it, then just forget about him. That's my opinion, hope it helps.



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