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I have a problem. I listened to some false rumors six years ago in high school and broke a dear friends heart. I never got over my frustration for acting hasty. Now, after calling every person in the phone book with her last name and looking on whitepages on the net, I've finally found her. I have joined an internet community called myspace.com and sent messages to her personal box on myspace, but I just can't get anything back. Was I being a fool for thinking that she would want to forgive me?
It sounds like this was a long time ago... I imagine it was painful for her. She may be thinking that you are apologizing now but wonders if you would act the same again. She likely feels that you nevr trusted her and why would you now?
You may want to address and acknowledge these issues when you contact her. You acted like an ***. Cop up to it.
Hi, uncle,
Are you sure this person even remembers you?
There is possibility this person doesn't even remember you.
At any rate, you have done all you.
Put it behind you, maybe not listen to "gossip" again and take it as truth, and move on.
Hi,
Are you telling this person who you are, or are you simply trying to get a response first?
The thing with myspot.com is that a hundred people can send you messages, the board gets overwhelming and people stop checking their messages. Is there any recent activity from her (last time she updated her page?)
If you want your message to stick out use - Your Name (first and last) is trying to get in touch with Her Name.
Good luck
-Kae
well... unfortunately there is a difference in wanting forgiveness and in being sorry.
your sincere apology might have been something she needed to hear, even if it had been such a long time ago. i once did a similar thing, digging through phone #s until i found someone who i had treated badly after a person close to me had died. i was jsut out of my head, but she deserved to be treated more kindly than i had acted.
the forgiveness part... she just may not be ready. that doesn't make you feel better, but thats just how it is.
best thing you can do is sincerely apologize and then be done.
expecting anything more from her is selfish and takes away from the act of coming clean. the act alone needs to be enough. if she comes around, great. but you should not expect to be absolved.
It was certainly worth a shot. Have you come right out and admitted your mistakes and asked her to forgive you? Unfortunately some people bear grudges to the extreme. If that's the case, then you may never be able to get anything from her. You were right to try and hope for the best. It sounds like you learned some valuable lessons along the way when it comes to listening to and acting upon gossip. Maybe she'll eventually come around yet. Hang in there, learn from your mistakes and don't repeat them.
I have a photo uploaded on myspace.com, she has read every message I've sent her, she beat the automated CEO friend that adds himself as soon as you sign up, and she has seen that it is truly me, so I guess I've got to move on... I now have an account at singlesnet.com
moving on isnt fun, but when its the right thing to do...
...well, its the right thing to do.
at least you know you put yourself back out there and arent going to wonder if.... id ALWAYS rather know reality. i can deal with reality. sounds like you are doing that too. good luck.
Hi,
Congratulations on being able to move on. It's sometimes hard, as I experienced with a Divorce after being married for 7 yrs, many years ago. Took me a year before I could start seeing others.
I do wish you the best, and good luck.
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