okay, so i've been daiting my girlfriend for 9 months now. everythings fine. we've been thru some stuff, but we always pull thru and still together. im pretty much in love with her, she is my first love and i love it. i love everything about her. she loves me too. and we have plans for the future and all that stuff.

the problem is, every since we've been together, she has always talked to her ex boyfriend. thru myspace and in rare times he calls her, and i dont know if she has ever called him. it bothers me. because he was her first love and they dated for about a year. she did everything with him. i also feel like i was just a rebound since she started dating me a month after she broke up with him. but she said that she also dated other guys before. beccause they broke up and got back together and then broke up again. i didn't know this until later. it drives me crazy sometimes, i get so jealous of him. i don't know how she can forget him or he can forget her, if they always still talk.

the good thing is that he lives far away now. but one time he came to town, and he met up with her. that made me really mad, but she still saw him. she also told me that, she'd hang out with him whenever because she thinks thers nothing wrong about it. it sucks for me, because the wrong thing about it, its my feelings.

should i get over this? or does she need to get over him?

jojo88

i have the exact same problem except my girlfriend was dating her X for two years and i know that she calls him and that she still loves him. its kind of refreshing to know that someone is going through the same thing im going through i really dont have an answer for it because im trying to figure out what to do as well but yeah just know ur not the only one gettin hurt hang in there buddy

IceSeraph14

ok nine months is a LONG time and i know the feelings your having and the feelings she is having. you dont like it that she has a lot of good memories with her ex, but at the same time, she doesnt want to forget the memories she has had. girl to guy, i honestly know how you feel, i recently moved in with my boyfriend and i work with his ex girlfriend of 3 years, its EXTREMELY awkward. but the best thing to do is talk to her, ask her why she thinks it is necessary to talk to him, ask her if it would bother her in the same situation. jealousy can ruin a relationship. if this is someone you truly care about you cant just take your own feelings into consideration. talk to her, the worst thing that can happen is she will know how you feel about the situation.

Kruzifixxion

I alos have been dating this girl for about 3 months now and we basicaly talk evryday on the phone and we've seen each other.I like her and she likes me so she told me that she stll talks to her x's and that theyre just here friends.So,i told her yesterday that i din't like it that she talks to them,because they want something else that to be just her friend and she said "yeah your right".Then she was like "but it's kind of hard cus i know them so sometimes" I guess it's natural to feel this type of jelousy because i can admit i am very jelous and the only times i feel like this is when she talks to her x's no one else.

She then decided that she will stop talking to them and that she was going to delete them from her myspace.I hope that does happen and i haven't talked to her since yesterday i gues to give her time to think about it.Do any of you think i did wrong by telling her that?
To stop talking to her x's? Please let me know and i would like some advise from any of you.Thank you.

Guest

I really have to diagree with waiting til you know she CHEATED isn't that a whole new ball game and isn't that a sign that you should both move on? Cheating is a big deal...