okay, so i've been daiting my girlfriend for 9 months now. everythings fine. we've been thru some stuff, but we always pull thru and still together. im pretty much in love with her, she is my first love and i love it. i love everything about her. she loves me too. and we have plans for the future and all that stuff.

the problem is, every since we've been together, she has always talked to her ex boyfriend. thru myspace and in rare times he calls her, and i dont know if she has ever called him. it bothers me. because he was her first love and they dated for about a year. she did everything with him. i also feel like i was just a rebound since she started dating me a month after she broke up with him. but she said that she also dated other guys before. beccause they broke up and got back together and then broke up again. i didn't know this until later. it drives me crazy sometimes, i get so jealous of him. i don't know how she can forget him or he can forget her, if they always still talk.

the good thing is that he lives far away now. but one time he came to town, and he met up with her. that made me really mad, but she still saw him. she also told me that, she'd hang out with him whenever because she thinks thers nothing wrong about it. it sucks for me, because the wrong thing about it, its my feelings.

should i get over this? or does she need to get over him?

talaniman

Did you actually come here miserable and then want us to believe you like being not only miserable but abused and used also? If you have hope for this relationship, I have some swamp land that might interest you.....................!

chuff

Dude that liza girl just broke up with someone. She's emotional, and apparently not all that experienced. We are telling you what we think is the best way for you to avoid the pain coming. If you want to follow it through to the end then maybe you need to, to learn that lesson. I've learned that lesson several times. It sucks every time. She doesn't care one bit about you. I truly believe that. I'm not trying to be the prick by saying that. I'm trying to hit you up with reality because your so emotional and, that is sometimes hard to break through. I believe the rest of the people who posted here believe the same way.

talaniman

He is in too deep to know this is not a healthy relationship. Thats okay events will hit him sooner or later.

mewaqua

talk to yuor girl friend pravitely and tell her about your feeling when she was hanging out with her ex and if she doesnt understand you setuation meybe it's time you should get over it

Geoffersonairplane

This is excellent stuff Chuff and I think this guy really needs to think about this. I see he has created another thread about how to get the father on side...I think he needs to accept that this relationship is over and step way back from her..

ftedetick

Hi I'm new and i was just passing through all this stuff...

What i think you should do is to just sit down with her and tell her the truth and just say that its bothering you and you want her to stop talking or seeing her ex boyfriend now the other option which i highly do not reccomend is to kick the crud out of him but i wouldn't do that...

I hope i helped with your question.

Ftedetick

chuff

Huh? Why should the ex boyfriend have anything happen to him? He hasn't done anything wrong? It is the girlfriend who continues to talk to him. It is the girlfriend who taunts the current boyfriend with her ex boyfriend. Why shift blame away from the girlfriend who is using the Eisforx?

I'm not advocating violence but if the ex wouldn't leave the current girlfriend alone you might have an argument to stand on. I could see that. But that's not what's going on here.

cutie08

i dont thinkyou should worry
i mean if she is with you right now and she loves you then everything should be okay you just need to learn how to trust her dont just jump to conclutions when you dont knpw the whole story i mean if she hasnt done anything to disobey yuour trust let it go
i mean dont take actiopn untill you know if she cheated or something like that
just trust her

talaniman

To much attention from and ex is a sign that the issues are not over. Throwing it in the face of a new love is disrepectfull and a deal breaker. Take your ball and go home! Game over.

NeoJunior

I have been in the same situation buddy! EXACTLY!!! and it happend! I mean, its over!!! She dumped him for me and after that we got a 2 years relationship. Before 4 months she talked to her ex, and made a long conversation, he wanted answers why they broke up, and all the stuff. From 4 months i told her that i dont feel good and i feel jealous about that stuff. But even that, she kept meeting him every day (drinking coffe). I was in LDR, but even that, i knew she keeps meeting him. I was insecure, jealous, and keep arguing about this thing with her (the only problem we had). She even cried at me. She always told me he is just a friend and nothing more. He is important to her, but thats all. She told me she doenst have feelings for him anymore and that he is a good friend to her. I knew this guy always wanted to have her back. Thats why i got unsecure. I told my ex, i trust you but i cant trust his reactions. She told me he is not a threat in our relationship.
Well, recently, i found out, she was cheating on me, with him.... So, i broke up.... And she never contacted me anymore, since 1 month ago... (remember, i used to love her, and she always told me she loves me too, pffffff, what kind of love, she even doesnt contact me anymore even if i tried to stay in contact, means she even doesnt care about me anymore).

Do you want to have an end like this for your relationship? Get OUT OF THERE NOW!!! YOU ARE JUST IN TIME!!! LATER HURTS LIKE HELLLLLLL!