Help! Boyfriend Problems..

AndAllOfThisWasYourFault · #1 Jan 26, 2006, 05:46 PM

Im 16 and ive been dating this really great guy for 7 months. Everythings fine but, lately we've been fighting CONSTANTLY! I love him to death, but I don't know whats up with this sudden change...what should I do?

lilfyre · Jan 26, 2006, 05:48 PM

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Originally Posted by AndAllOfThisWasYourFault

Im 16 and ive been dating this really great guy for 7 months. Everythings fine but, lately we've been fighting CONSTANTLY! I love him to death, but I don't know whats up with this sudden change...what should I do?

Did you ask him what is going on? Start with him first because he is the one that knows?

AndAllOfThisWasYourFault · Jan 26, 2006, 05:52 PM

ya ive talked to him..hes like "its a good thing that we fight"

CaptainForest · Jan 26, 2006, 05:54 PM

perhaps he is losing interest in you.

lilfyre · Jan 26, 2006, 05:54 PM

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Originally Posted by AndAllOfThisWasYourFault

ya ive talked to him..hes like "its a good thing that we fight"

It is healthy to disagree, not to fight, that is wrong, fighting does not solve anything it just amplifies what is all ready wring.

DrJizzle · Jan 26, 2006, 05:57 PM

Thats not a lot of information to go on. You need to fill us in a little more.

But in case you dont I will go with a common case....

Communication is the key to any relationship. Without it, the relationship will die. When people are young, they often dont communicate much, usually because they are not too sure of things themselves.

Maybe you do something that bothers him but he is not willing to tell you because the open line of communication isnt there and therefore, he fears her may hurt you. (and vice versa... he may do things that bother you the same)

The problem is that all of these unspoken things create these bad apples in your relationship and soon they will rear their ugly head in ways that you dont even realize. Suddenly you get pissed off at him cuz he took too big of a bite of your sandwhich, when the REAL reason why you are upset is cuz he was talking to Suzie at lunch yesterday. What makes it even worse, is that YOU MAY NOT EVEN REALIZE THATS WHY YOU GOT PISSED! Its crazy, I know... but its true.

Bottom line... communication is key. Open that up. Talk to him. Find out whats bother him and share whats bothering you. Find out what can be done on both of your parts to get along better.

AndAllOfThisWasYourFault · Jan 26, 2006, 05:58 PM

well he tells me that hed do anything for me and that he loves me and everything and he wants to like get married and stuff like that..im not saying its a bad thing id love that..but honestly ever since well we had sex things got worse

DrJizzle · Jan 26, 2006, 06:02 PM

Ahha!! The truth revealed!! lol

still not a lot of info here. Is he just playing you for the sex? Fighting with you everytime you two are together until he wants sex? This could be a common thing that young guys may do where they arent really "into" the relationship but want to hang onto it for sex.

DrJizzle · Jan 26, 2006, 06:03 PM

If he really IS willing to do ANYTHING for you... then he should be willing to talk to you about this.

Tell him that you are sick of it and that you are gonna bounce. You dont need this type of thing. If he really cares, he will try to resolve the situation.

AndAllOfThisWasYourFault · Jan 26, 2006, 06:04 PM

well he actually did say that he liked how we fought cuz of the "make-up sex"



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