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I was dating my boyfriend for a few months and everything was great. He decided to move away to another province and I would eventually move there too. I kept asking him on msn when he was far away in europe visiting family if he knew what we were going to do, and he kind of brushed things off. He always said he loved me and misses me, and he is a very well trusted and nice person. He said maybe we should be friends because we live so far away. I got mad and went out with friends and although we were informally dating again( a week later), I allowed a guy I met at the bar to come over for a drink. It got to making out between us and almost sex but I stopped it. Anyway I told my boyfriend and he simply said its over. He still says he loves me, talks to me, and wants me to go visit him if I choose. I dont know what to do. I want to be with him, but is there anything I can do to have him trust me again? I am not a cheater and have never done anything like this before. He really is an awesome guy and I am pretty sure he hasnt cheated on me because of who he is, and how he was with me. Ive dated some badnews guys before. I know it sounds like he doesnt care, but he says that he loves me but we couldnt work out long term, because sometimes I am "mean" to him. He also says that he still loves me and everyone can be mean.... i dont know. Should I give up? Does he love me but want to move on? Is he testing to see how much I love him and if i will make an effort to visit him? Thanks
i have had the same thing happen to me and let me tell you it takes a long time for someone to trust you again. You just have to show him that you love him and you didn't mean what you did. Trust me on this one i have had people hate me so much that they told me they wanted to slit my throat and what did they do? they forgave me no one has that much hatred in them unless they're dead inside. You should never give up on something you believe in or love have faith in him.
Blondie, not sure if this is what you want to hear...I think it's over. I think when he "kind of brushed things off..." he was sort of trying to tell you that. I think that when he told you "we couldnt work out long term, because sometimes I am "mean" to him..." that he was saying, it's over. If it can't work out long term, what's the point. You were with another guy cause he suggested you guys should be friends, nothing wrong with that...but, he still got angry, or did he? Is it possible he used that as an excuse to break things off??? Maybe it was easier to make you the bad guy.
So, now he lives in another provence, he's brushing off your questions, he suggested you be friends...he didn't move and beg you to come with him did he? He is acting like he doesn't care, it doesn't matter that he says he loves you, it's his actions that count. Move on and don't contact him anymore. If he suddenly misses you, I mean REALLY misses you(and he won't miss you if you don't keep that distance between you), than let him prove it. Remember that song, .."ain't no mountain high enough...ain't no valley low enough...", he should be telling you as often as he can that he loves you and misses you, he should be visiting you frequently, and it doesn't sound like he is. Leave him alone, move on, and see if he meant those things he said. Time will tell.
what the hell? he didnt cheat on me... he dumped me said lets be friends....then said he wanted me again... and i kissed a guy! i was in the wrong, but who cares he only wanted to be friends. so what its over. im over it is there anyway i can block u skell bc you are annoying right or not, youre annoying. i have listened to ppl give me advice i dont like and ive said thankyou for it. but your advice is just annoying.
To be honest this guy sounds like a typical player. He had no intention of taking you with him and probably knew before you got together that he was going to be moving. Its not a decision that you make over night. I hate to sound harsh but you were just convient for him. I would not even upset yourself over him.
I think you knew this deep mdown already which is why you alllowed a different guy to come to your house for a drink and to be fair you have no reason to feel guilty. Forget this guy and move forward. You don't need guys like him in your life!
My apologies. No need to block me.
ill unsubscribe from your thread.
But dont send me PM's like you have because you dont like the advice i offer others on their threads. if you disagree use the Rate this Answer function available. Dont PM me like you have been. Im not interested.
I hope you, your daughter and the man you plan to ask to marry you have a great life.
BlondieinCAN - Please don't take your frustration out on Skell he like everyone is offering advice based on their own experiences. He is only trying to help just like the rest of us!
my daughter? i dont hav a daughter. i dont plan on asking any guy to marry me either, ive been asked!! you keep getting everything wrong. i only pm you bc im new to this and thought that was what to do. i didnt know so dont judge.
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