Okay, so there's this guy that i think of as NOTHING more than a friend. I've never given any inclination that he meant anything more. Well, now he's trying to get more friendly and i've tried telling him that i'm not interested-i just got divorced, have a 3 mo. old and-my life is just a mess right now-plus, i'm really just not attracted to him, at all! It's getting to the point that i don't even want to talk to him anymore. i mean, i'm flattered...but NO. All he seems to talk about anymore is sex, and how much he thinks about it...it's really annoying and kind of disturbing. How do i tell this guy to knock it off without coming off as a total prude punk, b/c i do still have to work with him?

ozzieman_123

Just say that he had better stay away or else you will brand him a stalker

Lowtax4eva

Just say you dont want to hear about this kind of stuff and you dont like him in that way, try and be nice about it but make it clear you dont like those kind of conversations and he's just a friend.

Alternately... try and hook him up with a friend of yours, even if it doesnt work out he should get the point that your not at all interested in him.

Synnen

Tell him that you are flattered, but that you know he's way out of your league (he doesn't have to know that you're the major league and he's the little league, right?).

Let him know that until your life is more sane, you don't have time to pursue ANY relationships, and besides, you wouldn't want things to be uncomfortable at work.

At that point, say that you'd like him to tone down his conversations and keep them more business-like, and that while you think he's a great person, conversations like that are very hard for you right now (sniff, sniff) with everythign that has gone on with your divorce and all.

If THAT doesn't work, then play hard ball. Tell him that his conversations are making you uncomfortable, and you'd like them to stop.

If they don't stop after that, then you go to management.