I met a really nice guy on Thursday during a night out with the girls. We got on together really well and ended up chatting 'til the early hours. At the end of the night, he asked for my phone number and said he'd text me on the Saturday, which he did. I replied to his message but he still hasn't responded. I did have a missed call last night from a number I don't recognise, so I suppose that could've been him, but I didn't bother texting it to ask. I'm not sure where to go from here though - do I send him another text message tomorrow or shall I just leave it and see if he gets in touch? I don't want to seem too pushy, but I'd also like to know if he's still interested or not. Ugh. Boys are so confusing.

Fr_Chuck

persoally "texting" what ever happened to using a phone to actually call someone ( wild idea but I understands phones still do that)

Bikini__Kill

My question was about whether or not I should be the one to get in touch with him, not about anyone's personal opinions on texting versus calling.

I don't mind people suggesting that I do the latter instead, but there's no need to be rude about it.

Anyway, thank you for the sarcastic, and somewhat patronising, reply. You were beyond helpful.

Fr_Chuck

no, it is just plain silly, if you want to talk to him or know what is going on, you pick up the phone and talk to him about it.

JBeaucaire

Let me try to shed light on this issue another way, please forgive the speech.

Text messages are a one-sided form of "attempted" communication. They do not and cannot represent information to another person the way YOU would do it voice-to-voice, or face-to-face.

Your mind and voice is a phenomena to behold. You can hear things in multiple levels. you can say "hello" and send 3 or 4 additional subliminal messages at the exact same moment. And add in body language...oh, my! Don't get me started.

So Fr_Chuck is right suggesting that your REAL interest in this boy would be better served if you communicated in ways that allowed you to use all your skills. Texts are flat, and they are just messages. Real communication is a two-way process, and it is phenomenally rewarding when it is done in real-time, interactively.

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Ok, speech over. Now as to your basic question: "Do I send another text message or leave it and let him get in touch?" I, too, am sorry you feel these are your only two options. They limit you to

a) sending another emotionless, non-interactive "message" and hopes it does something
b) puts you in holding mode wondering and waiting while you watch the clock until he calls

Those both sound awful to me. I would still suggest a third option:

c) Go ahead and CALL him directly, don't leave a voice message, but if you get HIM on the phone, talk directly, be pleasant, and invite him to something specific in the coming weeks.

That's real communication, and you win all the way around when you do it personally.
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If you absolutely MUST communicate only through texts, then I say text away. No need to wait on someone else to get the job done.

Each text, however, should really say something substantive.

Reasoning:
My daughter treats texts like a "summons". She says very little in them, basically instructing others to stop what they're doing and text back. It's very disheartening to read some of the ones she sends to me. Some are very cute, but she ALWAYS expects me to answer in kind and actually punishes me when I don't/can't.

brookeleigh

Forget their advice..
I'd wait it out girl...He will get in touch with you if hes worth it.

Kia

yeah i agree. Hed most likely got your text message. Just wait, if he didn't he'll call eventually and leave a message if he doesn't get you. If he doesn't ever respond then he wasn't interested enough.

Kia

and you should let it go

liz28

I dont see anything wrong with giving him a call. He might be waiting for you to call so your both might be playing the waiting call.

I was in this situation with my bf but I called and months later we starting a relationship, a phone dont hurt. If he dont answer leave a brief message and if he dont call back then he's not interested.

brkfstatiffs

let him contact you. guys should ALWAYS initaite things. if he is interested trust me he will call you...and if you really dig him don't fall for him over a text message.