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Old Jun 1, 2008, 05:38 PM
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He hasn't replied to my text message

I met a really nice guy on Thursday during a night out with the girls. We got on together really well and ended up chatting 'til the early hours. At the end of the night, he asked for my phone number and said he'd text me on the Saturday, which he did. I replied to his message but he still hasn't responded. I did have a missed call last night from a number I don't recognise, so I suppose that could've been him, but I didn't bother texting it to ask. I'm not sure where to go from here though - do I send him another text message tomorrow or shall I just leave it and see if he gets in touch? I don't want to seem too pushy, but I'd also like to know if he's still interested or not. Ugh. Boys are so confusing.

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Old Jun 10, 2008, 02:14 PM   #11  
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If you want something you go and get it, just girls sit around and wait on a guy to call that guy could be doing the same thing. While your sitting waiting another girl that bolds will be stepping up.

Neve sit around waiting for a guy to call you because you losing time. If you want something/someone you should let them know. A phone call never hurts.
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I agree with Liz...def. try calling him but dont just sit there waiting!
The guy could be alittle shy (my bf was) and a woman taking the initiative shows confidence and most importantly it shows interest...there are so many poss. reasons why he didnt call/text you back so I wont get into that...
Bottom line: You wont know if this could be something until you try! If it isnt ~No Big Deal!
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Old Jun 11, 2008, 08:19 AM   #13  
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I don't agree. So what if another girl steps up. If he's really feeling her, he would still call and leave a message because he is interested & wants to know more about her. If all it takes to forget about her is another girl talking to him, then he isn't interested enough in the first place.
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I say wait. HE asked for YOUR number thus indicating the onus was on him to call. I will say texting someone as a first communication is odd but perhaps it is less nerve wracking and that maybe why it was a text rather than a call. Nevertheless, the ball is in his court and he knows that.

Look at it this way, if he likes you and wants to pursue something he will contact you, if he doesn't like you than he won't. I don't know of too many guys (none) that would be interested in a girl and then not call her ever just because she didn't contact when it is obvious that responsibility falls on him. I'll wager almost anything that he knows he's the one to call next, its how society operates

If he's not interested there is little a call from you is going to do to change that, it will only reveal your cards to him and then he can really call whenever he feels like it.

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I only said what I stated earlier due another member comment on the first page Kia. If you read what I wrote on the 1st page you would see that.

I dont remember the person name off hand but she/he suggest that she sit and wait no matter how long. There's nothing wrong with a women showing interest a guy by giving him a call and after a 2nd call if he dont respond he not interested and she needs to move on, again I said that already. Like mimi, I too was the 1st one to make a move and I dont regret it, if your confident enough to do this ther nothing wrong you might get rejected but that's life, you can always get what you want.
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I agree Liz.

I just don't think that it fits into this particular situation. To me its obvious that the guy ask for her number and so has taken the initiative to produce the first call. Texting is not an acceptable cover for not calling and so he still needs to call. Her calling him at this point, in my opinion, would not produce much. If he does not call he is not interested, if you call him you are going to find that out the hard way. Also, it is tooearly to suggesthe is not going to call to make a move on phoning him.

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This is being blown way out of proportion! Being an adult means taking care of yourself amongst other things, going for what you want etc. etc.
Dating in some cultures(and sometimes age groups) allows for women to sit back and wait for a man to come to them and do all of the work but the truth is, Going after what you want does apply to dating and women too...She wants to know if he's interested so there is absolutely nothing wrong with her getting in contact with him to find out! Playing games are just immature and a waist of time: whether it's the sit by the phone and wait game or guess that the opportunity is real only if it reveals itself to you game or even the "guys should make the first move" game...Dont play games with your dating life, You take control of it!
Besides it's such a waist of time to sit and wait and wonder or rent a movie and sit and wait and bite your nails...finding out will free you whether it's the answer you want or dont want---But having the answer is so much better than guessing!
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I understand your point but I think that men like a challenge to some degree as well. If you want to call that "playing games" then you can, but most men think that way. There are a few men who don't feel this way, and I guess she could pursue him and find out if she wants. But on the other hand; how would she know if the guy sees her as special, and not just being polite when she hunted him down in the first place when he wasn't even thinking about her enough to call after they met. If he's really too shy or scared to pick up the phone, what does that say about him anyway. That to me would be a turnoff because he would be a guy who needs to grow a backbone.

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Everyone is entitle to their own decision. I have one question for, why do you think it something wrong with go after a guy and preferred to make a "love spell" on someone? I think that is wrong and to the extreme to get a guy.
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no!!!! you dont seem pushy at all if he didnt get it send something else like when he called you say did u call me but no he wont think ur pushy at all but dont send to much if you want to talk just talk on the phone
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