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i've been hanging out with this guy that i used to date about 3 weeks ago for about a month. At my 18th birthday 3 weeks ago, he got drunk and madeout with two of my friends and didn't understand why i was so upset. Also when he was drunk, he would push me into walls, refridgeraters, counters and would yell at me in front of my friends. He blamed it on the alcohol and didn't really apologize to me for it. I told him about a particular friend that i had, that i didn't really feel comfortable with him hanging out with because she is a flirt and would screw him right away because she's kind of a slut. well he didn't listen and now they're dating..and he knew it was the one thing that would hurt me the most. he calls me everyday and says how much he wants to be with me now. Yesterday he told me he loves me and wants to break up with his girlfriend. He also got drunk yesterday and was grabbing my arms and holding me down trying to have sex with me. I said no and then the issue started again about 10 minutes later. i really like this guy but i dont know what to do, im so confused..do i let him go, or stick with it?
Seriously, why would you bother with someone who is a drunk, violence and tries to force sex with you? He doesn't sound like he's worth one iota of your time!
Tell him to leave you alone and to direct his affection towards his girlfriend!
You will find someone better than this, someone who treats you a million times better!
babes you gotta let him go. he knows that u like him and he will take the piss out of you...he already has by going with all of your mates. he is a player and you dont need an arsehole like that. and dont let the alcohol take the blame, he knows what he's doing!!
good luck sweet. we cant let them mess us around, there is a nice guy out there who will worship the ground you walk on. enjoy yourself and that 'guy' will find you
speaking froma blokes point of view, i dont understand why you gave him a chance after the first time he pushed u? let alone that after he tryed to have sex with you when you were sayin no that your even THINKING about giving him another chance, and imsure that that comes under some kinda of rape law doesn't it?, if u go back to him you've only got yourself to blame for his future actions and its sounds like it will only get worst sorry
Get away from this guy and stay away from him. Forever! You have listed enough reasons to ring every warning bell in a woman's head when it comes to self protection and self respect. This guy has no respect for you and he certainly is not looking out for your own protection.
- he got drunk and made out with two of your friends
- he didn't understand why you were so upset
- he pushed you into walls, refrigerators and counters
- he yelled at you in front of your friends
- he blamed his behaviour on alcohol
- he didn't apologize for: a) getting drunk when he was with you; b) pushing you around; or c) yelling at you in front of your friends
- he is dating the one person who you told him you didn't feel comfortable with him being with
- he is dating someone who is 'kind of a slut'
- dating this person is the one thing he knew would hurt you the most
- he is dating someone while telling you that he wants to be with you
- he told you he loves you yet he has a girlfriend
- he got drunk AGAIN and was trying to force sex upon you
Hmmmmmmmmm.... and you "really like" him?????
Hun, you need to dump the guy, dump the "friend" he's dating, stop hanging about with such pond scum, get some counselling to figure out why you would allow yourself to be attracted to people like this and start focusing on more important things in life... LIKE YOU!!!!
You have a lot of growing up and figuring out to do. In the meantime, maybe you should make a list of what you REALLY want in a man and every time you are tempted to be with a bad boy, read that list and see how many of those qualities he has before even thinking about a date!
Love is respectful, caring, sharing, kind. It is not rude, ignorant, violent, disrespectful, or intentionally hurtful. When a man loves a woman he cherishes her, makes her feel like the most important person in the world, and never, NEVER makes excuses for his mistakes.
It sounds like you have not been treated well for a long time. It's at this point in your life where you have to realize that NOBODY will treat you the way you should be treated until you look after yourself.
should i just cut it off and not go with him? he's very clever.
So I wrote about a week ago about a guy that would get drunk and push me around a bit and try to force sex on me when he was drunk. We settled things down and now I’m just really confused. While we were dating, I told him about a particular friend that I had that is a slut and I didn’t feel comfortable that he be in real contact with. Well, at my 18 birthday party, he got drunk and made out with her and now their dating. Well a few days ago he told me he loves me….but also loves the slut. I don’t really feel that I should be caught up in this stupid game of his whatsoever. He told my friend Courtney that he doesn’t know who to choose. I don’t want to be ‘chosen.’ I feel that I’m better than that. He wants to go my senior prom with me and I kind a want him to as well. I think we would have a lot of fun together. I know that I should let him go but it’s just so damn hard. Should I go for this one last night with him, or just cut things off now?
Curly, you surely are kidding right? Do you really want to go with this abusive nutjob? You know, he might just get drunk before prom and ruin the whole night for you in front of your whole school. Is that what you want?
This loser is an addict and an abuser. You are very lucky so far. He has not killed you. But, he still has the chance, if you give it to him. Afterward he will only say it was because of the alcohol, he is sorry. But your parents won't hear that because they will be mourning your loss.
Get away from this loser, he should already be in jail for what he has done to you.
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