is he flirting or just being friendly?

mydogquestion · #1 Aug 10, 2007, 07:59 AM

I had car trouble and had to call a local garage for help. When the help arrived he got things fixed was friendly and charged me way less than expected. Skip ahead I needed help again same man came to help , fixed the car for the time told me to bring it in next day for repair. He did not charge me for this trip at all. Went for repair and had to go back two days later with a flat. He personally fixed the tire and change it for no charge.I joked they they would be betting on how soon I would be back ( as I seemed to have a spurt of car trouble) His response was soon I hope.

About two weeks passed and went back for an electrical problem. While I was geting it fixed he shows up and askss if I had another flat tire? I said no I was being more careful about seeing what was in the driveway at home. He then said he could come by and drop nails in my drive ! I smiled and said as long as he change the tire that was ok.

Is he interested or just being friendly? The only place we cross paths is at his work. I"m out of practice with dating (Divorced ten months ago) .Also way scared of rejection.

Also have no reason to stop in his plaace of work .Any ideas.

GoldieMae · Aug 10, 2007, 08:03 AM

Clear flirting on his part. Find out if he's married first, but maybe next time your car hits a nail, you can ask him for coffee.

Chery · Aug 10, 2007, 08:07 AM

This is a good place to ask questions, that's what we are here for, but you should be asking him is he is 'flirting or just being friendly'

If you need a reason to approach him, bake a cake, take it to his workplace and use that as an excuse. Say you want to thank him for all the help in the past and see what happens. If he shares that cake with you over coffee, you are pretty safe in asking him straight out.

Good luck, and keep us posted.

mydogquestion · Aug 10, 2007, 08:15 AM

Thanks the place he works is pretty small and there are a bunch of guys around .I don't want to embarass him or myself in such on open space. Maybe if he was alone but not in front of his co-workers!

kanicky73 · Aug 10, 2007, 08:21 AM

I thought in the beginning he was just a guy who really enjoys helping people. But then you said he said he hopes you come back soon and that he could drop nails in your driveway. Those are clear signs of flirting. If he didnt care if he saw you again he wouldnt have thrown those out there. I am pretty bold when I see something that I want, so personally for me I would call there and ask for him. That is if you know his name. When you get him on the phone, just say you know I havent been having any car troubles in a while and couldnt find any other reason to come in there so I figured I would call and see if you have any plans for this Saturday. And see what he says, if he is married or with someone hopefully he will do the right thing and tell you so and then shame on him for flirting like that. If he is interested he will be pleasantly surprised by your assertiveness and most likely will agree. Guys like it when a woman makes the first move, right guys?

Chery · Aug 10, 2007, 08:22 AM

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Originally Posted by mydogquestion

Thanks the place he works is pretty small and there are a bunch of guys around .I don't want to embarass him or myself in such on open space. Maybe if he was alone but not in front of his co-workers!

Well, you could try a Thank You Note with invitation to coffee shop nearby. If he accepts, then good, if not, then you still know where you stand. Either way, you need clarification or you will have him on your mind too much to be able to concentrate.

Get clarity, and again good luck.

It's not good to be stranded anywhere, so set your goal and go for it.

mydogquestion · Aug 10, 2007, 08:30 AM

I do know his name. So I guess making the phone call is probably the way to go if I get rejected I will have to find a new gararge. But I kinda felt some interest .

Any guys with a response.I need some bolstering before I make a call.Thanks

kp2171 · Aug 10, 2007, 08:43 AM

rejection sucks, sure.

well... comes with the territory. you need to get past that, or at least shove it in the hall closet and deal with it later.

he absolutely was flirting and is interested. is he available? interested in a relationship? interested in flirting? dunno.

but im guessing you are highly likely to get a good response if you take a swing. hes said enough to let you know he likes flirting with you. next move is up to you.

send a thank you note for the great service and all the help. he deserves this irregardless of whether hes flirting or not... send it to him specifically. say thanks and throw in "i'll be glad when i see you and am not having car troubles"... sign with your name and throw in your phone number.

id be absolutely shocked if he didnt follow up.

kp2171 · Aug 10, 2007, 08:45 AM

by the way, ive been more direct before, but ive also taken his approach when interested in a woman i wasnt sure was interested in me...

casual, light interest shown. the prospect of crossing paths again thrown out there.

hes interested. at worst hes a habitual flirt. give him a change to prove otherwise. and just enjoy the attention.

s_cianci · Aug 10, 2007, 02:14 PM

Sounds like he may be interested. With all of the work he's done on your car, he probably has your address and/or phone number. He may contact you. If not, stop by his shop one afternoon. When he asks what's wrong with your car, say "Nothing. I just though I could buy you a cup of coffee after work since you've been so kind in helping me with my car." That ought to ge the ball rolling.



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