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    nmskyline Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 11, 2013, 11:18 AM
    Hanging out with women while in a relationship.
    I'm a very independent guy. I live on my own I go to college, I have a great job and I have a 4 year old son who lives with me. I met this girl about 9 months ago. Everything is great and my son loves her. The only problem I have is that I can be very stubborn. I have done things on my own since I was a teen and I like to continue doing things on my own. My theory is, "I was doing this way before I met you so don't try to change what I normally do?"

    Well now she has an issue because I said I was going to hang out with some old friends and there were going to be women there. I have always hung with women and she knows that. Should I try to compromise and not hang out with women... or should I drop her and move one?
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    Oct 11, 2013, 02:32 PM
    Don't worry, enough disrespect and she will dump you.
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    Oct 11, 2013, 02:32 PM
    Why could she not go with you?
    At any rate if you meet someone you think you could have future with and you are exposing your son to, you need to learn to compromise on some things. Would it bother you if the situation were reversed?
    When you are single you can do what you want, but when you bring someone else into you and your son's life, it's not just about you anymore?
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    Oct 11, 2013, 02:36 PM
    While I do believe in compromise, I am against one person dictating which friends/family/etc. the other person can interact with. This is, of course, as long as there haven't been any problems with infidelity in the current relationship.

    I do encourage you to sit down with her and discuss why she is against you seeing your friends (male or female) and find out if there is a compromise acceptable to both of you. If you can't reasonably work the issue out, then you have to decide how much are you willing to learn to give in. (In any long term relationship there has to be some give and take.) If she isn't worth what you would be giving up, then agree to go your separate ways before she makes even bigger demands.

    Understand that at some point in time, you will have to accept that your way isn't the only way. It's a life lesson about raising children.

    Good luck.
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    Oct 11, 2013, 07:49 PM
    Leave her
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