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Guys:why date a girl that looks nothing like your ex?

Asked Jan 26, 2010, 05:46 PM — 15 Answers
What would make you go for a girl that is the polar opposite of your ex when it comes to appearance and religion, when you said, you'd never date someone outside your religion. And its not a matter of the new girl having a better personality because your friends even complained to you that they preferred your ex.

Its complicated to write out; however, I find myself in the position of having questions concerning my ex's current girlfriend. He's made it clear he's attracted to me, yet she looks nothing like me. Similar personality traits are present; moreover, he still talks to me and is flirtatious. Yet I can't for the life of me understand why he's with her when he knows how I feel about him, and his friends have even said he still has strong feelings for me. Why be with her?

I'm expecting the usual "personality outranks looks;" however, my exes friends have even commented that my ex even knows I have a better personality. HELP!

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Jan 26, 2010, 05:51 PM
My fianc? Looks nothing like and is nothing like my x. For one my fianc?'s a male and my ex is a female. Guys can have various tastes. For example, a guy can like fiesty redheads and also have a thing for submissive brunettes (not classifying either of these as each, just an example of different girls)
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Jan 26, 2010, 05:56 PM
Most people, once they're mature enough to realize that looks aren't everything, don't date for looks.

So he's attracted to different looks, what's the big deal? Does she have to look like you? No.

I really don't understand why this is confusing for you. Obviously the two of you didn't work out, so why would he date someone just like you?
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Jan 26, 2010, 06:02 PM
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Most people, once they're mature enough to realize that looks aren't everything, don't date for looks.

So he's attracted to different looks, what's the big deal? Does she have to look like you? No.

I really don't understand why this is confusing for you. Obviously the two of you didn't work out, so why would he date someone just like you?
Okay lets try this again....he's made clear that not only does he find me more attractive and more of his "serious relationship" type...he's also made it clear that I also have a better personality. However, why stay with the downgrade is my question. Okay..continue...
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Jan 26, 2010, 06:03 PM
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Okay lets try this again....he's made clear that not only does he find me more attractive and more of his "serious relationship" type...he's also made it clear that I also have a better personality. However, why stay with the downgrade is my question. Okay..continue...
If you're all that and a bag of chips, why is he with her and not you? That's my question.

Has he told you all of this or is this all stuff that his friends and your friends have told you he's saying?

The fact is, he's not with you, he's with her. That speaks volumes.
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Jan 26, 2010, 06:06 PM
You sound very vain, please don't take offense to this. He seems to want to be with her more than he wants to be with you, else you and he would still be an item. He sees more in her than you see. Whether he admits it or not. For the best answer, ask him.
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Jan 26, 2010, 06:14 PM


And if he jujmped from one relationship to another, he may have so hated and was so sick of the one, he wanted someone totally different.

In any case, he is moved on, now it is your turn to move on
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Jan 26, 2010, 06:37 PM
The relationship is over, he is now looking for something different. I prefer blondes, always have, but Sophia Bush is hot! Once you get mature enough, you will realize that looks don't matter as much as personality
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Jan 26, 2010, 06:46 PM
The key to this question is he is your ex. The two of you broke up for a reason.

He has moved on.

He has found out that something else (other than his "norm") can become something special in his life.

Time for you to do the same.
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Jan 26, 2010, 08:04 PM
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Okay lets try this again....he's made clear that not only does he find me more attractive and more of his "serious relationship" type...he's also made it clear that I also have a better personality.
His actions certainly don't back this up , either that or he's lying to you.
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