Guys, what is he thinking?

rockerchick_682 · #1 May 26, 2007, 05:32 AM

I was dating this guy for about 6 months. I consider him my first real love and I gave my virginity to him. We fought a lot and we had to break up. I've accepted it, I just need to get over him and move one with someone else, but this someone else seems impossible to find. Recently we started talking again, which I completely regret, we kissed and had sex. I found out yesterday that he's been making out with other girls. He told me that he used to love me more than anything and anyone but doesn't love me anymore like that, just as a friend. I don't expect him to love me more than that, but after all we've been through I don't mean any more to him than just a friend? guys help me out what is he really thinking?

talaniman · May 26, 2007, 06:13 AM

You may have had a good time, but its over, so no way does he deserve you any more. He had his chance so, put him where he belongs, in the past. Just leave him alone, as he thinks he can have you anytime he wants to with no strings attached, and be patient, and get your happiness from doing what you like to with good fun loving people and move on. Amazing how when we are happy, we find some one to share it with.

remus674 · May 28, 2007, 02:24 AM

I'm sorry to say this but there are a lot of guys out there who will say anything to get you into bed and then can't wait to leave in the morning. Put him out of your head - this man will NEVER change and will end up hurthing you more

chippers · May 28, 2007, 02:40 AM

I'm not a guy, but being a girl, I can ball park it for you. He thinks he can come around for booty calls. he thinks he can becuase as you say you gave up your virginity to him. keep in mind you didn't give it to him, you gave it up. that said he doesn't own any rights to you. so next time he comes sniffing around, whack the dog on the nose with a rolled up news paper.
you're young and cute and have a life time to find another guy. this time you'll already know to have men treat you with respect. those who want a hook up on the first date aren't usually the ones who'll be there in the morning. the right guy will be the one willing to wait and treat you not just like a lady, but as any human being should be treated.

wiggitywackiraq · May 28, 2007, 03:15 AM

well, i have to agree with everyone else. he's just playing you. i mean how old are you? early 20s if that, you still have like 60 more years to go, and trust me there will be other guys. maybe its not a good idea to go into things putting your whole self out there emotionally. give it some time in the beginning before you commit physically, and emotionally. make sure you have the right guy. if he is the right guy then he will want you to be happy, and not use you the way your ex did. good luck. we awesome guys are out there...

Grayfox · May 29, 2007, 09:02 PM

seriously, ive been through something similar to that and id have to say that it sucks to let someone go that you cared about that much and even managed to give your virginity to(that can really be difficult) but if this guy says that he doesn't care about you as much, then just do what you do and try to keep him out of your mind. Dont make the mistake of sex with him again, call it a mistake....regret your naivity....but understand that you genuinely thought this was a very special person, so forgive yourself and try to just move on. Seems like this guy is immature or just messed up. Keep lookin for the right guy, but dont do it too early in your life.



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