Hi everyone, I've recently been reviewing all the postings about breaking up and stuff and i feel that they were helpful except i have a little bit different of a situation. 2 weeks ago I sensed that something wasn't right in our relationship and my g-friend seemed to loose interest in me. She has had back problems and a stressful job so she always wanted to go to bed early- i don't think that was b/c of me, but anyways i've been hanging out with her at her parents house where she lives almost every day, i think our relationship was getting too monotonous and boring for her and i was too nice of a boyfriend. I initiated the breakup by asking her if she wanted to take a break and she said that was what she wanted so we went on what i thought was just going to be a break for a week or two after 2.5 years of dating since hight school. Looking back i would never have done this bc i believe that i showed that i wanted to break up with her when I was only afraid that she was going to do it first and i did realize that we needed some time apart but not for long.
Turns out I still love her dearly and i went over to her house a week into the break to chill with her bro who is my age but really i wanted to see her. We talked about how we felt breifly and i said that i really missed her. Anyways she said she needed time yet to see how she felf and that she didn't miss me yet. At this point I should've left her alone for a long time so she could sort through all of the baggage in her head. Later that evening she left to hang out with friends and i acted like the jealous guy- big mistake. I looked through her phone and checked some text messages which she got mad about so i thought then that she was cheating on me. Then I left her house and told her i'd meet her at the party with her friends- mistake again!! She didn't want me there and when i showed up where they were getting ready to leave i realized the best thing was to leave her alone for a while, but i also broke up with her b/c i didn't want to be the one broken up with if she wanted to break up with me. i guess i should have just given her her space. Then the next morning she texted me telling me that it was over- i guess she wanted to have the power back or something- truth is i never wanted to break up with my sweetheart and i don't know how or even if I should tell her this quite yet, but I also feel that if i don't tell her she will think i don't love her anymore and move on. Her friend has told me she likes another guy who she works with which i don't think i believe that since she always told me what a pothead he was and he is 12 years older than her. i know that deep down she still loves me and will eventually come back b/c if i give her space and time to figure it out. I just need to hang out with my friends and get out more. I wish i could figure out how to stop thinking about her right now b/c i keep thinking about the romantic valentine's day we had just a month ago and now its come to this. Please help
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