I've been talking to this girl for a few months now. We have really clicked. Around the time we started talking, she told me she really likes me and I told her I felt the same. She does have a boyfriend, she has known him for years I belive. Anyways long story short, we have not actually went out with each other yet as she has over protective parents and she is making me wait until she gets her drivers license (which is a few weeks around the corner). Last week she invited me to a party which I agreed to attend, the night of the party I asked her if her boyfriend was going to be there and she said no, they not really talking anymore. All through out the night she was very friendly and flirty with me and blowing me kisses and what not. Anyways later that night around the time she gets to this party, she calls me to tell me the party really not jumping off, not as many people as expected but I can still come if I want. I call her back like an hour after to get directions and she says her boyfriend is there. I still decide to go because some of my friends were there but do not say one word to her other then hello when I arrived. It really pissed me off this guy showed up. The next day I told her I was done with her because she lied to me about not talking to him. That party was supposed to be for us to see each other. She was very upset and said she at least wanted to be friends. I made it clear I cant be "just friends" with her. She told me as soon as she gets her license, she will make it up to me and hang out just her and me and see where it goes from there. She kept telling me she is sorry and begged me to forgive her and give her a second chance. I finally give in and tell her i still want to get to know her more. She was very happy and said she did too because I was one of the coolest guys she ever met.

So my question here is should I even bother with this one? I mean I cant expect her to dump her bf as we have not really gone out yet. Its just I am really into her but dont want to get hurt in the end. Anyone been a simular situation where it worked out?

I just dont want to make the wrong decision and possibly miss a great opportunity.

margarita_momma

My thoughts on the subject are, you are her back-up. If things don't work out with her current boyfriend, then she has you to fall back on. If the girl was really into you as much as she seems to be, then she would have already dumped the boyfriend to pursue things with you. The fact that she is pretty much "hiding" you from her boyfriend is what makes me think you are her back-up. The reason she is probably waiting to get her license is so she can drive you and her places that her boyfriend won't be. I would tell her if she wants to try with you, then she needs to get rid of the boyfriend first. There is no sense in you falling for this girl and then her later on realizing she wants to be with her boyfriend instead of you. Good luck sweetie.

ks29418

Hey thanks for the reply. We have not actually been out on a date yet, you would think she would dump her current bf for me in fear it may not work out as we have not got to know each other that well yet? I have already thought about being the backup guy, or being played, hopefully thats not the case. I will say I have no real other interests atm, but think its worth the wait as I'm not really pursuing other people? I brought up her having a bf in the past when I told her I was just going to move on, she said she was scared or something and didn't want me to. I dunno, guess I will give it the few weeks to see what happens, even then I can still leave with some dignity if it comes down to it, heh.

margarita_momma

Just don't let yourself fall for her, babe. That is the one mistake you could make. She tells you that she is scared for you to move on and leave her alone? She is probably scared because if you leave her and she and her boyfriend break-up, she will be all alone. That's bull****! You also need to think about if you weren't wrapped up with this girl that is stringing you along, would you have other interests? Is there a chance that she is afraid of her boyfriend? Have you asked her why she hasn't broken it off with him yet and if so for what reason? Its better to get upfront answers than realizing later on down the road that you are falling for her and she ends up breaking your heart because she is in love with her bf. If you ask her and she says she is not in love with her boyfriend but doesn't want to leave him, ask why? There has to be a reason.