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i have this girlfriend we have been going out for about 2 years now and during those 2 years she has lied to me about doing cocaine crystal meth weed shrooms ecstacy. and it hurts me so much that she lies to me all the time. but that is in the past. recently she went to disney land with her best girl friend which introduced her to shrooms and ecstacy. i see a picture of her smoking hooka and a line of coke next to her and then another picture of her passed out in the bath tub. i asked her what was going on she agreed to the smoking hooka part whiched she lied about doing for about a month. i asked her about the whole cocaine thing and she told me it was a joke and they where messing around. but like she had 2 bags one still had cocaine in it a razor blade and a rolled up straw and a credit card to cut it. it seriously kills me on the inside that she could be doing drugs all again. should i let drugs slide likes its not a big deal? im so sad all the time but it seems like shes the only girl who makes me happy she still tells me she loves me so much and cares about me soo much.. but why .. why would she do that to me? what should i do?
IF you do see her make it a farewell until you prove to me you ARE getting help and don't let her sucker you in until she is doing far better.
If she can cheat on you and not be honest with you you are doing nothing but living a lie with her.
Well I know that you love this girl, but do you think she really loves you? The reason that I ask that is because in my experience people that are drug addicts don't love themselves. Futhermore how can you expect someone to love you if they don't love themself?
I know that people have told you to leave her, but you really do need to leave her. And i mean leave her. If you love her the best thing that you can do for help is distance yourself. If she is going to kick a drug habit she is going to have to hit rock bottom and that only happens alone. You have already given her the reason for the break up. Now it is time for the hard part. Break-up. That means not seeing her and not talking to her. And I mean stop answering her phone calls avoid and accidentally running into her on the streets. It's going to be hard, but this is something that you have to do and there is no alternative.
Also not only do they not love themselves but the love they THINK they have for others is usually a messed up kind of love that is not really love in the first place. It is just their understanding of love and VERY dysfunctional.
Also not only do they not love themselves but the love they THINK they have for others is usually a messed up kind of love that is not really love in the first place. It is just their understanding of love and VERY dysfunctional.
I'm so glad you understand that. I tell people that drug addicts don't love themselves and have very low self esteem and we go into debate about it. How can you put something in your body that is essentially destroying you and everthing around you? How you can do the things that you do when you are on drugs and actually think that you have self esteem and love for yourself. It's really sad
so i hung out with her today she was balling because i gave her a hug and said " you still accept me for what i've done to you" and then later that day i was like well if you quit your drigs and everything we can see eachother but untill then i cant see you anymore. and she said she willl try her hardest to stop and be with me. i donno if i should be iwth her still tho?
so i hung out with her today she was balling because i gave her a hug and said " you still accept me for what i've done to you" and then later that day i was like well if you quit your drigs and everything we can see eachother but untill then i cant see you anymore. and she said she willl try her hardest to stop and be with me. i donno if i should be iwth her still tho?
Are you even reading the past posts that everyone submitted????
so i hung out with her today she was balling because i gave her a hug and said " you still accept me for what i've done to you" and then later that day i was like well if you quit your drigs and everything we can see eachother but untill then i cant see you anymore. and she said she willl try her hardest to stop and be with me. i donno if i should be iwth her still tho?
I understand that you feel like she's the only person right now that understands you. She feels good for you. She makes you happy. Honestly, you HAVE to let her go and consider that you owe yourself more than a druggy gf no matter how wonderful you have been telling yourself that she is. She IS NOT. If you don't let this girl go you will find that months turn into years and years turn into multiple years...time will slip by and then what will you have in the end, other than a drug addicted girlfriend. She needs to quit, but she can only quit for herself, she's incapable of doing it for you. She's an addict. NO ONE ON THIS GREEN EARTH is able to do meth w/out getting addicted...it's like a cheap version of Heroin. The girl is an addict...don't you want a girl that loves you and can enjoy you without drugs? At some point in your life you need to be selfish enough to put your needs first. After all, who else will? Think about it...
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