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i have this girlfriend we have been going out for about 2 years now and during those 2 years she has lied to me about doing cocaine crystal meth weed shrooms ecstacy. and it hurts me so much that she lies to me all the time. but that is in the past. recently she went to disney land with her best girl friend which introduced her to shrooms and ecstacy. i see a picture of her smoking hooka and a line of coke next to her and then another picture of her passed out in the bath tub. i asked her what was going on she agreed to the smoking hooka part whiched she lied about doing for about a month. i asked her about the whole cocaine thing and she told me it was a joke and they where messing around. but like she had 2 bags one still had cocaine in it a razor blade and a rolled up straw and a credit card to cut it. it seriously kills me on the inside that she could be doing drugs all again. should i let drugs slide likes its not a big deal? im so sad all the time but it seems like shes the only girl who makes me happy she still tells me she loves me so much and cares about me soo much.. but why .. why would she do that to me? what should i do?
shes the only girl who makes me happy she still tells me she loves me so much and cares about me soo much.. but why .. why would she do that to me? what should i do?
Because she's drug dependent , honey. Addiction, alcoholism and other vices are siblings of lying. Encourage her to see counselor and go to rehab. If she wont come clean from drugs, your relationship with her is pointless. You cant be a husband to a druggie in future come on!
yeah i know she tells me she doesnt do drugs anymore. she lied to me all of march for drugs. i feel like shes better then that tho her friends are the one that is making her do that. i want her to stop and be her old self the one who always wanted to see me and always wanted to be with me be happy with life with no drugs involved.
ever heard of the line "Tell me who your friends are and I'll tell you who you are."? She's weak, easily swayed and lost for some reason. You cant change the person unless she's willing to do it for herself. Get her to counseling and in the rehab, if she wont, find someone else. This time, consider yourself. You are not superman.
i have this girlfriend we have been going out for about 2 years now and during those 2 years she has lied to me about doing cocaine crystal meth weed shrooms ecstacy. and it hurts me so much that she lies to me all the time. but that is in the past. recently she went to disney land with her best girl friend which introduced her to shrooms and ecstacy. i see a picture of her smoking hooka and a line of coke next to her and then another picture of her passed out in the bath tub. i asked her what was going on she agreed to the smoking hooka part whiched she lied about doing for about a month. i asked her about the whole cocaine thing and she told me it was a joke and they where messing around. but like she had 2 bags one still had cocaine in it a razor blade and a rolled up straw and a credit card to cut it. it seriously kills me on the inside that she could be doing drugs all again. should i let drugs slide likes its not a big deal? im so sad all the time but it seems like shes the only girl who makes me happy she still tells me she loves me so much and cares about me soo much.. but why .. why would she do that to me? what should i do?
But why would she hurt you so much if she loves you? Love is a lot of things...posotive things...it includes leaving parents behind and becoming one with some stranger right? why is it difficult for her ;then to leave this ... thing behind? Love loves; cares; forgives; trusts...even love forces someone to sacrifice onself for no special reason. Sorry to say this ;but I don't think she loves you.
What i think u need to do; talk to her for one last time. Tell her that u don't think what she is doing is right for neither of you. THen you let her decide between her ...cocaine and going to seek help with you. Tell her you are and will be there for her as long as she is willing to get over this ..and be firm to remind her that you can no longer take it if she chooses her coc over you. Good luck!
so i figured out my girlfriend was snorting ecstacy and she lied to me in my face tonight about it. i thought of a senario tho. she wants to be with me still because she tells me she loves me and all but she cant do anything because shes messed up on drugs all the time. so she doesnt wanna lose me at all she just wants me to wait for her so she can kinda get off the drugs and get better with me.
how does she plan to get off the drugs and get better with you? Does that plan of hers include you or it's just her and her friends? You need to talk to her pal. Figure out when she is planning to do that and how long you will need you to wait for her. I don't mean for you to dump her; NO! I wish for you two to work together and surive this together; if she is willing. Just let her know that you are waiting for her to give u a chance for that ...and at the same time , what will happen otherwise.
Friends don't MAKE her do drugs. They make it easier access to them but ultimately she would be out hunting them down if they weren't making them so available to her.
She is addicted and she lies because she doesn't want to loose you.
You will never get anywhere in a good relationship with her because her addiction will always rule her and it only gets worse. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with an addict? Really you need to get out now. Often even when addicts hit the bottom of the barrel they still don't want to quit. They will even go to rehab and come back out and start all over again. Don't waste your life on her.
But what if it's just what it takes for her to get out of this mess? What if she needs his support and she can't do the 'getting out of this' by herself? I say he mentions this offers before he gives her his back...that he is there for her NOW. This way he will never blame himself for anything if anything goes wrong...and she certainly will remember him forever!
I have yet to see an addict get through an addiction because somebody was there for them.
The addiction rules and they have to want to quit. As long as she is in denial his hands are basically tied to where he couldn't help her even if he knew exactly what to do.
He sticks with her and the next thing he knows she will be draining his life.
Most addicts I know will steal off their loved ones and not even give it a second thought.
It really isn't worth getting your life drug down by the things they do because their addiction rules
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