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I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years.. she said she wanted to marry me and spend the rest of her life with me... until two months ago, when she started talking to her ex again.. I figured it was ok because she loves me, and I trusted her. However, I was wrong. She cheated on me with him and not says she is confused and loves us both. I want to be with her despite how she has hurt me. But she is so indecisive...one minute she says im the one , the next im not, and the next minute she wants me again. I dont understand it... she hasnt seen her ex in days and hasnt talked to him... but I fear she may actually leave me for him. Anyone with any advice or anything..please leave it...
I feel sorry for you! I have always had bad relationships so know how it feels to be hurt. I personally don't think you should stay with your girlfriend. Sorry but if she thought you were enough and she loved you then she wouldn't be like this with her ex. She was bang out of order for cheating on you aswell. You deserve better and you need to be in a relationship with someone who loves you and someone you can trust and won't hurt you in the way that she did. Move on! It will hurt for a while but you will feel better for it afterwards-take it from someone who knows!
well. your girlfriend cannot love both of you two. because you cannot love someone with your whole heart with your heart not letting go of another. if she really loves you then she would not have cheated on you. sorry to say but she must not love you and must have always still had feelings for her ex. she wouldn't have contacted him if she didn't. if i were you i would move on because of the way she has hurt you. you need a girl who will love, appreciate, and a girl you can trust with your life. i hope everything works out for you.
I agree. You can not take her back because you will still have that lingering thought in the back of your mind on who she really loves. the faster you get out the quicker you will heal and be able to move on.
I want to be with her despite how she has hurt me.
Given her past behavior, and her present confusion, I hope you listen to the other posters, and chose to run for the hills. She has wronged you, and has you thinking in a very unhealthy way. Why would you want some one who does that? Run from her before she makes you into a weak pathetic puppy, and she will, at the rate your going.
I agree with everyone ..because if you do stay together that will always stay in the back of your mind and if she comes home late because of something she had to do ..You will immediately think she was with him.. and you will not have that full trust in your relationship. I always had 3 rules before I commited to someone because I have had some abusive and cruel thing happen to me behind my back and I learned the hard way
Rule 1. NO JEALOUSY There are only 2 sexes in this world..men and women.. The opposite sex is going to be around everywhere and you have to have that full blown trust to know your man or woman loves you..and when they flirt with your other half.. you know he or she is gonna tell them they have someone..its called respect..
Rule 2. If you find someone else while we are in a commited relationship that you want to go have sex with.....BREAK UP WITH ME FIRST!! Their is no pain that hurts so deeply and so horrible and sticks with you for along time..sometimes forever.. That is just plain heart-less..and very cruel.
Rule 3. NO LIEING..How can you trust someone that can't tell you the truth..
If you are looking for unconditional love she is not the one..
But if you want her here is an old saying..
If yiou love something very much
set it free
If it does not come back to you..it was never ment to be yours..
If it does .. love it forever!!
I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years.. she said she wanted to marry me and spend the rest of her life with me... until two months ago, when she started talking to her ex again.. I figured it was ok because she loves me, and I trusted her. However, I was wrong. She cheated on me with him and not says she is confused and loves us both. I want to be with her despite how she has hurt me. But she is so indecisive...one minute she says im the one , the next im not, and the next minute she wants me again. I dont understand it... she hasnt seen her ex in days and hasnt talked to him... but I fear she may actually leave me for him. Anyone with any advice or anything..please leave it...
Me and my girlfriend have opted to take a break... however, I still see her and hang out with her... but she also talks to her ex... however only over the phone.. I'm not sure what to think.. I want her so bad... and there is much more to it that me just being a weak puppy... but I can't tell what she is thinking... she is still all over me and really all she does is talk to him in text or over the phone for short periods of time... but I still don't know...and is it really fair for her to be with either of us...because its going to be the same way if she is with him.. any further advice would be great
It's good that you're taking a break. But I don't think you're really going into the spirit of the break since you're still worrying about what she'll do. Why not just take a deep breath and walk out of this issue for a while? Fill your brain with other thoughts, hang out with friends, relax a bit. When you return to the grind of figuring out what to do about your relationship, you'll have a clearer mind.
Is there something in the water or what? Why would a healthy male put up with that kind of treatment? What does she have that you would trade your dignity, and self respect for? In your heart you have to know this is not a situation for you, so get unstuck and out of it.
all of you people are right... I decided to just be friends with her because she really is my best friend... and I think things will be better like this... and if she decides to come back to me so be it, but if it doesn't turn out that way... then I guess it just wasnt meant to be so.. o well
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