Hi Everyone,

I posted this on another board and wanted to post it here as well to find out more opinions on this because I am completely confused by this...Ok so there is a guy I have been friends with at work for a long time and we started hanging out about a year ago. We would always talk at work but never started hanging out until he found out I liked him. Once he found out I liked him he told me we should hang out more which we do. At one point last year I was going to move to another state where my best guy friend lives. When he found out I was thinking about moving he emailed my friend and told him I wasn't moving out there and that he should move back here. So that's the first clue that made me think he liked me too. Also at work he always seems to make stupid excuses to come over and talk to me. For example I had soup one day at work and he called me on the phone and asked what I was doing...I said I was eating lunch but couldn't finish all of it and said he could have the rest if he wanted. He said No you should finish it but I'll come up and look at it. ? Some days I will catch him staring at me and others he can't even look at me. We just went to FL with some friends for the weekend and him and i shared a room at the hotel and my friend and her boyfriend shared a room. We all went out to the bar one night and my friends boyfriend (I did not tell him to do this) asked him if he liked me. He said No...we are just buddies. I am just very confused because everyone keeps telling me that a guy would not go away with you for a weekend and share a hotel room with you if he was not interested. One of my other guy friends also kept calling me over the weekend and each time he would call he asked who it was...at one point I was joking with him and said none of your business and he tried to grab the phone out of my hand and acted jealous. So basically I am confused and would like some other people's opinions. Could it be that he likes me but is too shy to admit it to other people? Or does he really just see me as a "buddy"? If I were him and I knew someone liked me and I didn't like them I would try to stay away from them to give them the clue that I don't like them, but he is doing the opposite.

jgeyer

i know you don't want to do anything thats going to make things awkward, but you gotta try and just ask him out...on a date...make it a neutral zone date - movie or something where ou don't have to talk all that much,

you'll see the suttlties...if he reaches out or wants something of yours, popcorn, candy...

i mean, im guessing your not 16 so it shouldnt be that tought o flirt and find out if he likes you....try and go together also, so that you can see how the night ends..

"Do you want to do this again", see if he reaches over to kiss you, or if he just jumps out of the car....gotta just be blunt...you got nothin to lose...if anything, you'll have a blast as friends...

kristynn

Hey Missy,

It seems that he likes you, but is this since he found out that you like him? How did he find out, by the way?

I can't tell what his intentions are, but is he flirting with you somehow or is he only being nice? Yet, he doesn't want you to move to another city and he wants to know who's calling you... On the other side, he says you're only buddies.

I don't recommend you to ask him out but instead, try to make things clear for him to realize that you want to go out with him. Let him ask you. If he's really interested, he will! If he doesn't seem to get it and/or if he's too shy, although he doesn't seem to be shy, then, go ahead and ask him... but keep this as your last option.

Missy121

He found out I like him from my best guy friend. He told him. And as soon as he found out that's when he said we should hang out more. That was almost a year ago. But I am confused because usually if you know someone likes you and you aren't interested wouldn't you back off to give them the clue that you don't like them back? At least that is what I would do anyway.I know that he had dated a girl and they broke up about two years ago and he hasn't dated anyone since then. I am assuming she was his one and only girlfriend from what I have heard so I don't think he has much experience. So from that people are telling me maybe he is scared to admit that he does like me because of his past relationship.

kristynn

I understand what you mean and this is why I'm also saying that he seems to like you. So, then, why are you still confused?

You just need to make it clear for him to see that you're really interested in him. OK, your friend told him that you like him, but if he likes you, he'd want to know it from you! He probably wants to make sure you really like him before he makes a move. ~Probably!