My Girlfriend Broke Up With Me Over Moving In Together.
Asked Mar 15, 2012, 07:12 PM
I have a question and would seriously like some honest answers. 15 years ago, when I was younger, I'm 41 now, I met Pam. We would constantly run in to each other in the clubs, me always being very attracted to her. Well one night she goes back to my house, and one thing lead to another. She at that time was single, and so was I. We talked a ton on the phone at that time but she never went back out with me.
Time pasted I got married, and so did she. My coworker last year went and bought a wood stove from her, out of coincidence. My name came up, he gave me her number, I texted her. I had been divorced for 4 yrs and she had just moved out and was going through a divorce. We decided to meet, and have been dating for about a year now. The relationship is very steamy. I have a 6 year old daughter who lives with me a couple of days a week. She has a 15 and 10 boys. She has broke up with me at least 20+ times over the year we have been dating. She is on her second divorce. I was so in love with her I kept coming back.
I have a large home and wanted her to live with me someday. I am one bedroom short, so I built one in my basement for her son, but as the time comes closer for her to move in, she is getting very nervous.
Her concerns are as follows.1. What if I change and am mean to her... 2. What if I change my mind and don't want to be with her, she would be left with no place to live. 3. The house that I live in was the same as the one I had with my ex wife, its not hers so forth and so on.
Tonight on the phone after she went to her counselor (my suggestion, its her third visit) she went for a 6 mile walk to clear her head. She stated a ton of things that I had said that she thinks are inappropriate for a boyfriend to say to her girlfriend. All of which were not a concern last night or this morning mind you. I feel as though I have invested a lot of feelings, and kind of foolish completing the room, as I have no need for it if she doesn't move in. But more to the point, how can I invest more of myself if she might do this at anytime?
Last edited by talaniman; Mar 15, 2012 at 10:20 PM.