My girlfriend and I broke up.

DP10 · #1 Jul 17, 2007, 08:42 AM

Hello,
My girlfriend and I broke up on the 13th of July, hows that for luck. Well this is the break down. Me and my girlfriend before dating used to work with each other. we worked with each other for about 4 months it was always professional. She was dating someone at the time and I was in an abusive relationship. I started a new position and we went our seperate ways. I eventually seperate from my wife and get divorced. I begin dating and find that I did not have to much in common with most people. I eventually run into my girlfriend who was broken up from her boyfriend. I then run into her again and ask if she would like to go out. we do and hit it off nothing changed from the time we used to work with each other conversations are great and so forth. Well needless to say we take on a steady relationship for 9 months. Here is where everthing starts to casue some issues. her father and mother had divorced, she comes from a very close family. Then in january of this year her father passed away. I was there for support and did anything for her. Then we move in together in march. The kicker is that I had adopted a child with my ex who literally abandoned her and she moves in with us. Then in June the family pet was put down and it triggered something in my girlfriend. She became overwhelmed and I guess depressed. Our communication began to break down and the stress set in. Then the break up. I am so sad and I have not really spoken with her. Me and My daughter moved out and live with my parents. My daughter keeps asking when we are going home and it kills me she is only 3 and a half. I have not really spoken to my girlfriend and have given her space what am I to do. i really want to be with her and we are a great couple just so many things.

marie302 · Jul 17, 2007, 10:47 AM

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Originally Posted by DP10

Hello,
My girlfriend and I broke up on the 13th of July, hows that for luck. Well this is the break down. Me and my girlfriend before dating used to work with each other. we worked with each other for about 4 months it was always professional. She was dating someone at the time and I was in an abusive relationship. I started a new position and we went our seperate ways. I eventually seperate from my wife and get divorced. I begin dating and find that I did not have to much in common with most people. I eventually run into my girlfriend who was broken up from her boyfriend. I then run into her again and ask if she would like to go out. we do and hit it off nothing changed from the time we used to work with each other conversations are great and so forth. Well needless to say we take on a steady relationship for 9 months. Here is where everthing starts to casue some issues. her father and mother had divorced, she comes from a very close family. Then in january of this year her father passed away. I was there for support and did anything for her. Then we move in together in march. The kicker is that I had adopted a child with my ex who literally abandoned her and she moves in with us. Then in June the family pet was put down and it triggered something in my girlfriend. She became overwhelmed and I guess depressed. Our communication began to break down and the stress set in. Then the break up. I am so sad and I have not really spoken with her. Me and My daughter moved out and live with my parents. My daughter keeps asking when we are going home and it kills me she is only 3 and a half. I have not really spoken to my girlfriend and have given her space what am I to do. i really want to be with her and we are a great couple just so many things.

I think you should go back and tell her that you love her and that your there and never going to leave her. ask her what do you need to do to help her get through this rough patch. shes probably still hurting from when her dad passed away. take it from me this pain will never go away. she needs time. just go and see her. kiss her. bring roses. and tell her you love her.



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