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My Girlfriend is openly Bi. I dont mind that she is, but im also not turned on by it. I know most guys have the fantasy of his gf/wife with another women but i dont. So it brings 2 questions. Should i let her be with women also? or mabey try to be comfortable with it and have a threesome or something?. And her old boyfriend liked her going out having sex with a girl and then telling him about it. Is it bad that I do not want that at all and feel she should be with me and only me even though she has an appetite for women also? I dont want to feel like im suppressing her and such.
U knew at the very start that she's a Bi. U should accept the consequences tht comes with. In Christian belief, monogamy is a must however if both of you are not believers like me, its fine too. She will take women in bed if she wants to no matter if you allow her or not anyway.Since you dont want to sound suppressing her on her sexual acitivities, then let just things happen when it happens. Just cross the bridge when you will both get there. Then write here again.
i think hes lookin for just peoples thoughts on the situation and if he should try to adapt to it or not. Also seems like hes seeing if hes alone in the feeling of not having those fantasies
Ok... she's bi. Shouldn't be a problem. She's attracted to women, which is fine.
That should NOT mean that you have to let her sleep with women also. I mean, if you're fine with an open relationship, that's up to you. But just because she's attracted to women doesn't mean she has to act on it.
That would be like a man allowing his girlfriend to sleep with other men. Just because she has a sexual appetite doesn't mean she's exempt from exclusivity (assuming that the relationship is exclusive).
So, it's really up to you. But being bi doesn't legalise cheating.
But if she's willing, and you're comfortable with the idea of threesomes or something... why not? If it turns out to be less than exciting, at least you can make all your guy friends wildly jealous. :P
You dont really seem to be comfortable sharing her with anyone, either if its a female. If cant accept it then leave, since you stated it does not turn in, then whats their to prove by having a threesome.
You sign up for this by accepting this but you tried and it not what you want. You have a tough choice to make, either stay or leave. The call is yours, I doubt you can change her mind about being bi.
I agree with Kalfour.The fact that she's bisexual doesn't mean that her doing sexual things with other women without your explicit consent is not cheating, and if you don't want to give consent for these actions then you are also certainly not wrong. Would you let a heterosexual girlfriend have sex with other men because she's attracted to them?
It is never bad to not want to go along with what others prefer sexually. You have your preferences and they have theirs. You can't force yourself to enjoy doing something you are not comfortable with. If you want a monogamous relationship and
If you don't feel comfortable with her sexuality maybe she isn't right for you.
To me personally, I do not see it much different than saying
My Girlfriend is openly wanting to be with other guys. I dont mind that she does, but im also not turned on by it. I know most guys have the fantasy of his gf/wife with another man but i dont. So it brings 2 questions. Should i let her be with other men also? or mabey try to be comfortable with it and have a threesome or something?. And her old boyfriend liked her going out having sex with a others and then telling him about it. Is it bad that I do not want that at all and feel she should be with me and only me even though she has an appetite for others also? I dont want to feel like im suppressing her and such.
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