So me and my girlfriend of 6mo's decided to take a break. I asked her if she wanted a break because all this past week she was "OFF" Anyhow, i got tired of the basically her emptiness. She expressed to me on friday when i finally asked to talk to her, that she feels empty, like she is just a robot working and not getting anything done. Her job is stressful, her parents want her to come see her in turkey and she is having a hard time with the money. She said that she loves me with her heart, but that her mind is making her doubt "US" and she doesnt know what to do or what she wants. SO needless to say i agreed on friday to take a break. I am trying my best to leave her alone and not talk to her, but i am so tempted to say hi and whats new? Im used to living with this girl and now all of sudden shes not here, its really hard for me to not bother her... Anyhow, in any girls experience out here, what do you think this means, what do you think i should do? How long do you think is a sufficient break? She said she will come to me when she is ready? but what if thats a month 2 months... i want to know sooner... and i am willing to wait a few weeks but a few months is retarded... if we are going to end up broken up anyhow i would rather just quit sooner than later... im a hopeless romantic so this is killing me, but i want to wait it out, and hope for the best... As u can probably see im lost as heck lol...
thanks for any help...

jrebel7

Not always, but most times, when people say they need a break, they are actually leaving the relationship, while trying to give the other person time to adjust to the separation so that they are not so hurt. I have seen this in people who are married and those who are just dating. People who say they need a break are generally caring people but the pain they cause in the process, making the other person wonder what is going on while they are "on break", is not fair. There are times when a person takes a break, they do work things out in their head and decide to come back but I would prepare to let go. I do not say this to take away any hope they she will return. She may just need a break to refuel her energy by having quiet time with no demands of a relationship. You will know in fairly short order. She may not say anything to let you know but after giving her a bit of time, I would approach her and ask how things are going, how she is feeling and ask straight out if her feelings have changed. When people love each other, they generally want to have that person in their lives daily. Hope for the best and the desire of your heart but prepare to move on if she does not come back around. Letting go is difficult. I hope you don't have to but in the event that this is how it goes, just know that when one person leaves the relationship, no matter now much the other person wants things to be the same as they were before, it won't be the same. For your emotional health, just give it some time but be prepared in your head and your heart will follow as needed.