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    Inaru Posts: 76, Reputation: 4
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    Apr 26, 2009, 09:10 PM
    My friend's "girlfriend" ignores him
    My friend got a girlfriend a couple months ago. He always tells me that she doesn't return his calls even if she says she will and hardly ever hangs out with him and makes excuses of why she can't. I'm getting seriously angry with her because she's hurting his feelings doing that. Someone even told him that they saw her with another guy. My question is, what should I tell my friend to do about it? He always tries to suck up and never gets mad directly at her even though I said he should. Is there something I could do?
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    Apr 26, 2009, 09:16 PM

    Wow... use to hearing the guy doing such to the girl/young lady...

    Same answer though...

    Move on and find someone who wants to be w/ bf/gf.
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    Apr 26, 2009, 09:21 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Krazi View Post
    wow...use to hearing the guy doing such to the girl/young lady......

    same answer though.....

    move on and find somene who wants to be w/ bf/gf.
    I said "just break up with her, she's hardly being a girlfriend anyway" and he really doesn't want to.
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    Apr 26, 2009, 09:33 PM

    Well, then you can't do much.
    Don't risk your friendship trying to get him away from her.
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    Apr 26, 2009, 11:29 PM
    Let him sort it out.

    You can't live his life for him - even if what he is doing, chasing after her, seems wrong to you. It's his lesson to learn.

    Just be there to support him and pick up the pieces when it goes pear shaped.
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    Apr 27, 2009, 07:21 AM

    If he wants to hold to someone that isn't worth holding on to instead of realizing that her actions are telling him what he don't wants to accepts, then he has to learn the hard ways.

    I understand you're his friend and hate to see him get played and what hurts even more is that he is sticking with her when you know he shouldn't. But oneday he will come to his senses and leave her.

    The sad part ia he has to want to.
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    Apr 27, 2009, 07:23 AM

    There's not much you can do. If he's willing to suck it up, then that's his choice. You can't force him to do or not do something.

    The only thing you can do is tell him your opinion about the situation, but ultimately, it's his decision to make.

    I also have some friends who are completely entranced by their significant other and whatever we say, it just goes in one year and out the other. In my experience, I just let them learn from their mistakes and say "I told you so" later on.
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