friends dont get it.

ZigZag07 · May 12, 2008, 08:50 AM

how can i explain to my friend that dating a 17 year old sophmore, who just got out of jail, and has cheated on her multiple times....... (she also has only met him 3 times....he lives 30 min away) that hes not a good person to be with? he treats her like crap...then she gets upset and hes all "i love you i love you..im sorry" on her?!
she thinks i just dont understand that he really is sorry...and i dont know what its like cause my boyfriend lives just across town..and can drive to see me..?!

?!

Rockstar714 · May 13, 2008, 12:29 PM

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Originally Posted by ZigZag07

but what kind of friend would that make me?

Aren't you trying to help her? That makes you an awesome friend. Sometimes it hurts to see our friends get hurt, but when they don't listen and just do what they want anyway, they have to learn the hard way. Its the only way your friend will learn since she's not listening. You're a good friend for wanting to help, and it sounds like you've done all you can't. I'm not saying to stop being friends with her, but try talking to her one more time and then just let it go.

ZigZag07 · May 16, 2008, 09:19 AM

thats true...
i just wish there was something i cood do.
now shes thinking about breaking up with him.....which is awsome
BUTT she likes this other guy./...whose even worse.

CFZD · May 16, 2008, 04:55 PM

Tell her parents too!

ZigZag07 · May 19, 2008, 08:52 AM

Wont telling her parents make it worse? I think they even know, and dont care very much. its kind of a disfunctional family to say the leaste

CFZD · May 19, 2008, 09:02 AM

How about her teachers? Which grade is she at?

ZigZag07 · May 19, 2008, 09:16 AM

We are freshman....
teachers here dont give a rip....
and they wouldnt understand...

talaniman · May 19, 2008, 09:27 AM

Tell no one, just keep the band-aids and crying towel handy, she may need both.

ZigZag07 · May 20, 2008, 08:48 AM

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Tell no one, just keep the band-aids and crying towel handy, she may need both.

Thanks....thats what i plan on doing i guess...

JBeaucaire · May 20, 2008, 09:38 PM

Some people wield their "love" like a "get out of stupid free - card"...and it doesn't work that way. If your love is making you do STUPID, you ignore it.

But that's if it's YOUR love. This isn't your love, it's hers. You can't talk to people fully entrenched in their "stupid love" that ignores the universe. She doesn't care.

Only try to influence her when she asks. The rest of the time your just going to have to enjoy the horrible show.

ZigZag07 · May 21, 2008, 08:46 AM

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Originally Posted by JBeaucaire

Some people wield their "love" like a "get out of stupd free - card"...and it doesn't work that way. If your love is making you do STUPID, you ignore it.

But that's if it's YOUR love. This isn't your love, it's hers. You can't talk to people fully entrenched in their "stupid love" that ignores the universe. She doesn't care.

Only try to influence her when she asks. The rest of the time your just going to have to enjoy the horrible show.

Ya...guess so. Its just hard...but i mean, guess shes gotta learn on her own..and ill be here if she needs me.
Thanx a bunch JBeaucaire =]



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