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  • Sep 20, 2011, 09:58 PM
    AlexiaWx23
    I feel like I'm never good enough for my boyfriend
    So this started a few months ago when we both started getting busier with our lives (school, work, family etc.) and he changed schools so he could go to this other one that had better programs to offer him. I already have horrible self-esteem which many people would never think that about me but it's the honest truth, I thought that would be important before I continued with the story. This new school has many MANY fake girls, by that I mean the full out Chanel Purse, Orange tan, like the desperate housewives. Lol. I've never been like that, I was raised to be yourself and I'm not over weight by any means I'm very petite but I have a lot of curves. I feel as if he's gotten over occupied with all these other girls that he doesn't see me attractive and keeps finding ways to not be with me. We've made plans over and over again and he keeps breaking them. I even pushed sex on him the other night and he was acting like he was to tired and didn't want any part, which is weird because it's usually him pushing it on me. An I know it's not just my imagination because I've caught him browsing people's Facebook photos on his history. It's usually the blonde hair, blue eyed type. I brought it up before and he just tore me to pieces on how it wasn't my right to go through his things and that there just friends and he was just bored. So I'm asking is this whole thing just my made up feelings or is he wanting to be with someone else because he continues to look at other people and has already switched schools so he's farther away?
  • Sep 21, 2011, 12:31 PM
    tickle
    Alexai, your are working this into a big deal and actually shouldn't. He will always look at other women, that is what men do. We just have to ignore it, and when we do it works out to our advantage. He is right, you should not be 'peeking over his shoulder'; that shows you as too needy and that doesn't work well with men. They tend to back off from needy women.

    He will eventually get tired of the girls with fake tans, blonde hair and blue eyes. Just give it time, and in the meantime don't make a big deal out of it.

    Tick
  • Sep 22, 2011, 01:55 AM
    landomando
    STOP looking through his stuff. I don't understand why girls have to find something to get mad about and start drama. If u don't trust him break up with him. Don't look for reasons. If there's a reason you will see it.
  • Sep 24, 2011, 01:32 PM
    talaniman
    Work on your own self esteem and any relationship you have will get better.

    This isn't about him, or what, or why he is doing what he is doing. Its about you, and all about what you do about your own feelings.

    Snooping, and presuming is not the way to go. Talking and coping with your feelings in a positive way is.
  • Oct 25, 2011, 03:17 PM
    ilani93
    I know I might be a month late but Alexia I'm sure you are a very beautiful girl inside and out and if your with a guy that loves you he shouldn't be looking twice at any girls other than you. Don't take any guys advice one this because most of the guys that haven't grown up will tell you "your over reacting" "dont worry about it" or "its ok for him to look at other girls" BUT its not. And I'm sure you know in your head that looking at other people when in a relationship isn't normal. Personally I think you shouldn't even bother with him and move on because your better than that. ANYONE is better than that and I don't have to know you to tell you other wise that goes for anyone who is going through what your going through. And defiantly do not give him SEX to get his attention that's not the way to handle the situation, you need to show that you have respect for yourself and for a start you shouldn't be with someone that makes you feel the way you do and especially makes you feel bad for getting into his "business" you have a right to get into his business because #1 you are the girlfriend who is a little concerned and #2 you actually shouldn't have to look at his things to know what he's doing if you have a feeling that he's doing something wrong you need to be strong and walk away. Leave the zero and get with a hero ;) you deserve better hun.

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