My ex boyfriend broke up with and is now ignoring me.. But I want him back.

kcomissiong · Jun 14, 2011, 08:47 AM

So you cursed at him when he was willing to meet with you to talk things out, then called him by the name of what you claim is an awful person, and you don't know what happened? It seems as though he was already evaluating whether or not he wanted to stay in this relationship, and your little temper tantrum gave him the out he needed. Sorry, but if he hasn't bothered to get in contact with you, its over. In the future, treat your partner how you would want to be treated, and only say what you mean and are willing to stand by.

spitvenom · Jun 14, 2011, 09:39 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by averytaylor

Him: Hey what time you going to come over?
Me: You said 5:30..
Him:Yeah that's cool
Me: I'll just go to Emily's if your going to be a ***** tonight
Him: Since I'm such a little ***** you don't have to worry about me anymore. I had fun while it lasted. I hope you have a wonderful life. Goodbye.

Here is where I am confused what did he do for you to call him what ever word is blocked out? I mean everything was fine he was coming over and you called him whatever that word is. To be honest I would have done the same thing as he did.

talaniman · Jun 14, 2011, 04:40 PM

Do you drink often? I think since he is leaving anyway, he has nothing else to say, and is going to move on.

Sorry.

amicon · Jun 15, 2011, 12:43 AM

He said goodbye-so accept it's over and start moving on.

averytaylor · Jun 30, 2011, 06:49 AM

Threads merged

He broke up with me almost a month ago. We had a great relationship and everyone said he was head over heels for me, constantly telling me he loved me, how we were meant to be, etc etc. I'm not going to lie, I was a really great girlfriend to him.

Well we got into a fight about some issues that we were having involving work and college (over text..), I ended up calling him a bad name (one that I guess guys get REALLY offended by) and he dumped me.. Over text.. By the way, this guy is 20. Real mature.

I called him at least 10 times, apologized, and he never answered. I gave him a day to call me back then I texted him again the next night, apologizing and asking if this is what he really wanted. No response. Then, out of anger and frustration, I said something really, really, mean that I knew would hurt his feelings... Still no response.

I haven't tried to talk to him since then, and he hasn't either. It's been a month.

So I'm definitely not trying to get back with him. This guy obviously found it so easy to let me go, I'm GONE.

But it's true that the silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse. He had the right to leave me, but at least tell me why, because what's even more painful than getting abandonded is knowing that I'm not worth an explanation.

Some people that know this guy really well said that this behaviour is NOT like him at all, and it's all mind boggling. I thought I knew him too, but guess not. They also said that he is stubborn as hell, so who knows.

So... My question. Is there even a slight chance that he will contact me eventually? Just to give me some kind of closure? Like a, "Hey, just wanted to see how you were doing?" kind of thing.

0rphan · Jun 30, 2011, 08:25 AM

Reading your post, I would say he's had enough, he dumped you because of abusive language,because he doesn't answer your calls, again you say something you know will deliberately hurt him,not to mention you dishing out orders as to how long he's got to call you back.I would say you have behaved really badly toward him,acting like a spoilt child.

I think it's fair to say ....forget it,it's over.

miss_a90 · Jul 15, 2011, 01:31 AM

So his friends have said that his behaviour is really out of character, and without meaning to upset you, maybe that's because you said some things to hurt him.
I think that for the sake of your own sanity you perhaps need to accept that this is over. The fact that you were only dating for a month doesn't really mean that there weren't strong feelings there, as no one can put a time limit on that, but it does perhaps mean that you don't know everything about each other, and maybe there is a side to him that you didn't realise was there, this stubborn side who won't talk to you.

Your best thing to do is to write him an email/facebook message (as these are stored for longer than text messages normally) explaining that while you understand it is over, you are sorry for the things you said, and that you didn't mean them. In the message, let him know that you respect him if he wants to keep his silence, but at the same time if he wants to talk to you then you'll be more than happy to speak to him. And when he's calmed down, you would apprecaite an explanation.
But remember to keep it short and simple and to be nice and civil.

redhed35 · Jul 19, 2011, 11:23 AM

Your on the receiving end of no contact.

No contact is about healing, moving on and getting back on track.

No contact works, and that's what your ex is doing, hoping I suppose that you will eventually get the message that its over, you don't need closure, he does not need to know how your doing, its over.

Try and pick up the pieces and learn from this experience.

Cat1864 · Jul 19, 2011, 12:18 PM

I hope she has found closure in her own mind, but if not maybe she will be back.

My ex boyfriend broke up with and is now ignoring me.. But I want him back.

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