My ex boyfriend broke up with and is now ignoring me.. But I want him back.

Toffee36 · Sep 15, 2011, 03:36 AM

We all say things that we regret when we argue. This man walked away and has ignored you for a month ? That isn't normal, stay away do not let him back in your life, by dishing out the silent treatment and not giving closure to your relationship he is trying to control you. Been there done it and had the tee shirt. Move on and find a decent man who can converse like an adult .

averytaylor · Oct 3, 2011, 03:46 AM

We just broke up last night. He dumped me because he doesn't want a relationship right now and doesn't have the time for one between work and school. He said that he still cares about me a lot and wants us to stay friends.
Cool. The problem is that we both work as waiters at the same restaurant and it's unavoidable that we work shifts together. He made me promise not to quit and I don't want to quit because I love my job. Tonight, day after the breakup, we work together. I have no idea how to handle it and I'm scared I'm going to start crying or say something stupid. I just want to heal and get over it, but that seems impossible I'd going to keep seeing him all the time..

BK201 · Oct 3, 2011, 04:21 AM

Tell him you are not ready for the friendship yet, and try to develop anger within you, against him, for dumping you. That will guard you. And there are many reasons why you can get angry on this, putting the blame on time is one thing. Grrr.

averytaylor · Feb 8, 2012, 04:17 PM

Me and this guy have been on and off for 9 months, we're both in college and have been through hell together. A couple months into dating, he told me he was "falling in love with me" to which I responded with "thank you.." because I wasn't sure how I felt yet. I know his little ego was crushed...

By now we have broken up, because he didn't want a girlfriend (I was his first girlfriend since high school, and what 19-20 year old guy doesn't have doubts about being in a committed relationship?) we had space, realized how much we missed each other, and got back together about two months ago (he initiated, not me), and NOW I find myself head over heals for him. I honestly do love him.

But there's a few problems. He's been out of town for two weeks, visiting family and spending time with his grandma and cousins and such... We were perfectly fine before he left town. But while he's been gone, he barely talks to me. I get a call or a text every two or three days. If I text him, he responds almost immediately and we're fine, he's not short or distant or anything like that. I called and told him that it seems like he's distancing himself, and last time he did that he broke up with me, but he said we were perfectly fine and there was nothing to worry about. After that conversation, he didn't talk to me for two days...

Well the other day I found out he has been texting a girl that I'm acquantinces with, and she told me about it and said she didn't know he had a girlfriend until she asked him and he said yeah he did. I asked what happened, and they have never even met,only messaged through facebook. She let me read all their conversations and the worse thing that was said was that "he wishes she were there to snuggle with him" but other than that, their conversations were nothing more than friendly.

So I confronted him about it, and he said that he's a natural flirt. I was already perfectly aware of that.. And honestly, it's hyprocritical of me to get mad because I text other guys and flirt with them too. He said we'll talk about it in person when he gets back in town tomorrow, which was fine by me. We've texted a little bit since then after I cooled off, and things were fine. He wasn't short or rude or anything.

I'm just confused right now, and I'm not sure what to do at all.. I love him, and I think it's stupid to end things now after everything that has happened. I just don't know if I'm being needy and overreacting, because I've been told that I do that a lot. Others have told us that we are perfect for each other if it weren't for the fact that he was arrogant and I didn't have such and awful temper and overreact so much.

Any advice would be extremely helpful... Because we're talking in person tomorrow, and I'm not sure what to do...

Homegirl 50 · Feb 8, 2012, 05:39 PM

Don't make a big deal over his chatting with the girl. Just enjoy each other's company.
You either trust him or you don't. If you don't, you don't need to be with him.
If you do trust him, put your temper in check and stop over-reacting to every little thing.

averytaylor · Feb 17, 2012, 12:33 AM

We broke up in October because he didn't want a relationship. We got back together in December, him promising that wasn't going to happen again.

Well Valentines day my boyfriend had work and didn't bother making plans with me, so I went to a movie with my guy friend who was ditched by his girlfriend an had an extra ticket. So I went, and didn't tell my boyfriend until the next day. He flipped out.

We agreed to talk in person the next day, and when I went over to his apartment it went bad. He said he was only pissed at me that I went out with another guy, not "hurt" or "jealous" and he had a talk with his stepmom saying that I wasn't the girl he wanted to be with in the long run. So he broke up with me. He asked if I loved him, and I reluctantly said yes, and he said he doesn't love me, although he does care for me, a lot.

I'm so hurt right now. I want things back to where they were. I want him to love me.

bluecomet12 · Feb 20, 2012, 05:20 PM

First off, try to look at the sitiation in his perspective..Your girlfriend went to a movie with her friend. Try to understand that he was angry. But, this has happened before with him hasn't it? Well, he doesn't seem like a very promising guy. Just remember that there are other (and better) people out there. You just have to start looking. Hope I helped!

mmresd · Feb 20, 2012, 05:40 PM

If you had gone to the movie theater with another man and not had told me about it, especially on valentine's day, I would have been pretty upset. So I do understand where he is coming from.

However, the reason why he broke up with you is not important, the fact that he broke up with you is. So respect his decision, work on yourself, keep yourself busy, and start to move on.

My ex boyfriend broke up with and is now ignoring me.. But I want him back.

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