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Sooo,this guy at the gym kept looking at me for months.Finally he asked me about his turtles(I am a specialist for reptiles(and he came to my house and I helped him with his turtles and he hooked up my TV and we flirted at the gym and then he started coming to my house in the evening,just asking questions like something about his turtles or that he just wanted to check if I am alright and then finally one night he kissed me,told me that I am beautiful and he was so passionate,that he was trembling.I really thought that he liked me.
We were intimate two times and he really seemed to like it but now he is distant,does not want to talk to me.At the gym,I tried to talk to him but he was evasive so I stopped but I am puzzled.There is an age difference-I am older but it didn't seem to make a difference before.
OK, I am going to make a few assumptions, First is that You are VERY attractive, second is that this isnt the first time you have encountered this sort of thing.
Guys have this thing about fantasizing about women that they see in everyday situations, like you at the gym for instance. Sometimes they are just looking for something on the side, and sometimes they build up the fantasy so high that they actually are disappointed when reality happens. This truly is the " It's not You, it's Me" scenario!! Guys are never sure of what they want...even when they have it!!
And unfortunately it is Beautiful women like yourself that pay the price. So, you really only have 2 options....#1 Dismiss him as easily as he has to you.
or #2 Track him down like the dog that he is and confront him!!
Ahem,I can't remember putting up a pic of myself here...
Anyways,he didn't seem disappointed,quite the opposite...
and we have known each other since at least a year so it's not like I hurried it...
If he just wanted to "hit it and quit it" he'll end up giving you some crappy answer like "oh i'm pretty busy now", "I wish we could talk but I have to go home and feed my turtles".. etc.
Seriously. Just talk to him- it'll be the only way you find out the truth.
Well,the gym is not the right place and that's the only place I see him...I don't want to be a phone stalker and generally only call guys if it's important...
Well,the gym is not the right place and that's the only place I see him...I don't want to be a phone stalker and generally only call guys if it's important...
You were intimate with him. You posted this on a public forum, I am pretty sure this is important to you.
Why not go up to him at the gym and say "Hey Tom, I was just wondering why you've been distant lately." and let him answer it. If not you can always leave him a voice mail and say "Hey Tom, I've seen you at the gym but I didn't want to disturb your exercise routine. I've been wondering why you've been distant lately? Maybe we can go out for lunch this weekend. Talk to you later bye".
If he doesn't call you back then you'll know.
Be straight forward- how else will you get an answer?
I did:I asked"was it something I did??"and he said"No"and that was it.When I approach him he looks me in the eyes,not away and seems attentive,but distant.I have to say that I have watched him and he does not seem the usual player type.He is always very polite to everybody and we know many people mutually.Today I did catch him watching me from a distance...But I payed to attention to him.I will keep it this way unless he talks to me.
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