Does he really like me or just want to fool around?

De4rest · #1 Dec 17, 2008, 02:07 AM

One day I talked on the phone with a guy that I like and he likes me too, but we aren't in a committed relationship yet. I told him about a friend of mine who dates older guys because it is hard for her to find guys her age. Then, this guy I like started commenting stuff like: Oh, what's her phone number btw??? But then, I just became silent. Then, he was like: Oh, I was just joking.

Why would he jokes about that kind of stuff??? why is he hitting on my friend??? Does he really like me or he just want to fool around???

N0help4u · Dec 17, 2008, 05:06 AM

When they ask for your friends number or your sisters number that is a CLEAR indication they are not interested in you in a serious relationship kind of way. It means he looks like you as a confidant or a kid sister or whatever but not a gf!
He said he was only kidding because he saw that you were hurt that he didn't look at you as potential gf 'material'
Maybe he just wants you as a friend and not even someone to fool around with.

De4rest · Dec 17, 2008, 08:39 PM

Thanks... but what's weird is that he has asked me to be his gf...

N0help4u · Dec 18, 2008, 03:00 AM

I think he is just fishing for whatever he thinks he can catch

stevetcg · Dec 18, 2008, 06:38 AM

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

When they ask for your friends number or your sisters number that is a CLEAR indication they are not interested in you in a serious relationship kind of way. It means he looks like you as a confidant or a kid sister or whatever but not a gf!
He said he was only kidding because he saw that you were hurt that he didn't look at you as potential gf 'material'
Maybe he just wants you as a friend and not even someone to fool around with.

I dunno - I make some awfully inappropriate jokes to my longterm girlfriend. I get in a lot of trouble

N0help4u · Dec 18, 2008, 01:01 PM

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Originally Posted by stevetcg

I dunno - I make some awfully inappropriate jokes to my longterm girlfriend. I get in a lot of trouble

exactly. She should be thinking this is inappropriate if he is interested in HER.

roxypox · Dec 18, 2008, 01:38 PM

well it defiantly was an inappropriate joke! but it might just have been a really bad joke!

Is he older then you De4rest?

N0help4u · Dec 18, 2008, 01:42 PM

Often people will say something serious and then when it goes bad they will claim they were just kidding to ease the tension. I am sure that is the case here.

roxypox · Dec 18, 2008, 01:49 PM

of course he might have meant it in a serious manner, but he might not have... tone of voice, facts... i've heard ppl make jokes like that without meaning it.... heck i've made bad jokes in that way and i didn't mean it....

roxypox · Dec 18, 2008, 01:50 PM

oh btw did he just ask for her number or has he actually hit on her?



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