Does a booty call ever develop and change into a relationship?

neverme · Mar 9, 2010, 04:54 AM

Short answer, no.

You've asked him and he said he saw you as FWB, unless something has changed...which it seems it hasn't...well I'm going to guess there is no change.

Sorry.

I wish · Mar 9, 2010, 06:45 AM

Anything is possible, but there are no guarantees.

One thing is sure, you're setting yourself up for disappointment. Are you prepared for a heartbreak?

Jake2008 · Mar 9, 2010, 09:08 AM

The only relationship foundation he is interested in, is the mattress.

Larken85 · Mar 9, 2010, 09:16 AM

Experts will tell you that sleeping with someone enough will make you chemically fall in love with them. This is why women are bad when it comes to sleepin around. They can't do it without falling for the person they sleep with. (its scientific) once or twice isn't that big a deal but when its all the time you start feeling things for the other person and you start relying on him to be there to make you feel good.
He doesn't have this issue, men are not like that. As a matter of fact men are not naturally manogomis (spelling?) creatures and thus we are created without having to have attachments. Sorry to say this buy men are naturally dogs. However doesn't mean we can't be trained.
You might what to see what he says when you cut off the gravy train. Stop the sex and just hang with him. Tell him what you want out of this and try it that way. Booty calls never last all that long. Either it will turn into a relationship or it will end. Soon. Best thing you can do at this point to keep this person in your life for a lot longer is to take action in making it last.

Gemini54 · Mar 9, 2010, 03:07 PM

Sounds like you've got the friend and he's got all the benefits! Why would he want to change the current situation - as my grandmother would say, he's got the cow and he's milking it too (or, something like that).

If you want more than sex and friendship then call him on it. I think that after 3 months, you're entitled to ask what his real intentions are.

Perhaps after the diving holiday?

I guess though, yeah got to be prepared to be disappointed.

jmjoseph · Mar 9, 2010, 03:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Larken85

experts will tell you that sleeping with someone enough will make you chemically fall in love with them. This is why women are bad when it comes to sleepin around. They can't do it without falling for the person they sleep with. (its scientific) once or twice isn't that big a deal but when its all the time you start feeling things for the other person and you start relying on him to be there to make you feel good.
He doesn't have this issue, men are not like that. As a matter of fact men are not naturally manogomis (spelling?) creatures and thus we are created without having to have attachments. Sorry to say this buy men are naturally dogs. However doesn't mean we can't be trained.
You might what to see what he says when you cut off the gravy train. Stop the sex and just hang with him. Tell him what you want out of this and try it that way. Booty calls never last all that long. Either it will turn into a relationship or it will end. Soon. Best thing you can do at this point to keep this person in your life for a lot longer is to take action in making it last.

Dude, you are on a slippery slope here. Let us know if YOUR girl buys that "manogomis" (monogamous) crap.

Booty calls CAN turn into a relationship. And they can backfire too. No one knows how this will turn out. Just enjoy yourself.

skyebev · Mar 10, 2010, 12:47 AM

Hey - thanks everyone for the input - all of what you have written goes along with all the same thoughts that I have been having - I was just hoping I might have got it wrong. He has the cake and is eating it too! Gemini54 - I also thought after the dive trip would be best - so I guess that is what I will do...bummer....the sex is so good too! Isn't that always the way?!

Jake2008 · Mar 10, 2010, 02:20 AM

Might be a good time sky, to think about what you want in a relationship, and where your needs and wants are. While the sex may be good, that doesn't indicate much about his character.

I can tell you that nothing beats a loving relationship with mutual respect for each other. Good communication (verbally lol), is a must to build a foundation. You may find with the right person, that it is who they are, that in turn, makes for good sex.

There is a lot more to a satisfying relationship than a romp in the hay. I may be old fashioned, but, I hope that you set your standards a little higher, and expect more from a man that you are attracted to. You may surprise yourself by putting the sex on the back burner to simmer, while you boil up a good solid friendship first.

All the best.

Jake2008 · Mar 10, 2010, 02:25 AM

To Larken, thanks for the P.M., telling me once again that men are dogs, and not to give you a reddie or disagree with you.

My point is, read the rules of the forum. People are entitled to an opinion, but if you are going to state facts, then please back it up.

I have no interest in sparring with your comments, and ask that you do not PM me again.

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