I have been dating my boyfriend over a year. He is the greatest guy I have ever dated, but he is a pilot and is gone 4 days a week. Even though he calls me a lot and tries to make me feel comfortable with his job, I still find myself sad a lot when he is gone. I am 25, he is 30, and I dont know if I should stay in the relationship because I think if we were to get married i would end up working harder than him, and resenting him. It is also hard because I never know who he is with or the hotels he is at. I'm worried our relationship is more likely to fail becasue of his job. I don't want to stay with him another 2 or 3 years only to end up in a break-up. I wanted to know if anyone has any advice or personal experience with this?

Super Allie

I dont know anyone, but have my eyes on a pilot if ever i come across one, as I hear their girlfriends travel free.

Free trips to Spain me tinks

GoldenMiner

I am dating a pilot and it is hard. The time away is the hardest. I totally trust him and love him. I have been dating him for almost 4 years now and so in this time alot has changed. When we first started dating he wasn't a pilot so hanging out and doing things together was alot easier and now he is gone for days at a time. I totally get sad when he is gone for long periods of time but he is so happy. He calls everytime he touches down and he is very devoted. I understand the trust issue also. His pilot buddies cheat but he always keeps his nose out of trouble. I think if you love him give it a chance. If you take no risk you don't know what you are missing. And contrary to your belief most are devoted and devasted when their girlfriend/wife leaves. We are now talking about marriage and children so be careful of what you want. Be very honest and upfront about your expectations, wants and desires. My boyfriend is very honest and trys to spend most of his freetime with me, but he is often exhausted. I am here because I chose to be here and love him. I think that anything that comes up can be worked out. If you do get lonely easily live close to family and friends they will be your most valuable resource and strength. It will be difficult but being here has been some of my best and some of my worse times - yet I still wouldn't change it for the world. Good Luck!

ms williams

my dad was an airline pilot. gone a week and home a few days. my mom just dealt with it. she had the three of us to keep her busy. sure she felt alone at times but this was their life. they seem to have a great marriage. they just had their 45th anniversary. now he is retired and him being home all the time is making my mom nuts. now they are trying to adjust to being together. its kinda funny.
it really just depends on what you are willing to put up with. if you are needy and want a companion, some one that is gone alot might not be the best guy for you.

N0help4u

A year later I hope she has made her decision if she can cope with her insecurities or not by now.

brazilia

4 days out of the week thats nothing...try being a military wife or gf..where he would be gone 1 to 2 years,,before you complain you should think about how hard others have its obvious you need much attention.you should let him go before you break his heart.and why would you find yourself working harder if he is making all the money? not that money can make you happy,but i didnt understand as far as "working harder" what u meant

lovemypilot

I know this is an old post, but I just found it. I'm dating a pilot and couldn't be happier! It's hard when he's away, but it's just something you get used to.

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