Hi my name is Sarah,

I have a problem. My boyfreind barley calls me anymore, i never get to see him, and i can never call him because i dont know how to get up with him. I want this relationship to work out because i love him more then words can express we have been going out for about 3 months now and the relationship still isnt working how can i fix this? can i fix this? o and by the way he is 20 years old and I am only 15 but my mothers knows and she doesnt mind because she knows Jay very well and she can trust him but i am not so sure i can Please help me i have been stressing over this for about a month now. And i cant get him out of my head he is all i think about and cry about Please help me out! thank you!

Love,
Lovesick!
(sarah)

shaladaa

You have to listen to this...the major problem here is age difference...

a 20 year old guy thinks ALOT different than a 15 year old guy....

Im sorry to tell you this but that relationship will not work..it cant...its complicated to explain...


But

if he doesnt contanct you for sometime......then hes probably using you....its harsh i know.....but thats the way it is.

Jesushelper76

LOVESICK,

FANTASY, Your in a fantasy world. Fantasies are okay, as long as they do not take over your life which sounds like it is.

There is no relationship here and it will not work. It is best to leave it alone and let it go.


Joe

shygrneyzs

Your Mom is actually "okay" with a 20 yr old guy dating her 15 yr old daughter? Some states would call that something else.

But look at your own statements - he barely calls you, you do not get to see him, you cannot call him because you do not know how to get up with him.... Look hard at those statements. Read that back to yourself very slowly and let it sink in. The guy does not want to have contact with you. If he did, he would. Plain and simple.

I highly doubt what you feel is love for this guy. You feel an attraction, possibly a need for some physical closeness, but it is not love. Whatever you are feeling - he is not feeling the same. If he did, he would be there.

I hope you two have not had sexual contact - that is against the law considering your age and his age. Does not matter if you were willing, you are not 18 and not an adult.

You need to quit "suffering". This is not a relationship that has a future. Maybe when you turn 18 - he will be 23. The years of maturity will look good on both of you.

Jesushelper76

Rocking the cradle, possible statutory rape if it went further.

chinnie_2007

Listen hunny Im going to tell you as it is
Your a sweet 15 year old girl who still got a lot of innocence hes 20 im not that much older than you im 18 but really most guys arent gunna put dat much effort unless they get someting in return(sex) so droop it let it go his mind is way diffrent from yours your young there is plenty other guys your age that would love to talk to u and treat you better