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Hi...new to site. When should he call for Saturday night date? I think Wednesday. Thursday seems too late for me. I usually have plans by then...for real. He called me last time on a Thursday for a weekend date (Friday or Saturday was not specified). I told him that I had plans and that we could go out on a weeknight the following week. So, we went out on a Wednesday night. I last heard from him Saturday afternoon. It's Wednesday...shouldn't he be calling me today to ask me out for the weekend? UUUUGGGGHHHHHH....I don't know why I care so much! I think that I am just bored at work.....
Alright...it's Thursday morning. Still no call...but, I am over it now. Kind of! GRRRR! I can't call him. We haven't dated enough for me to feel comfortable enough to call and ask him "WHY DON"T YOU LIKE ME ENOUGH?????"
ISF said it, call him up and ask him if he wants to do something on Saturday. There's nothing wrong with you showing him that you'd like to spend time with him.
We haven't dated enough for me to feel comfortable enough to call and ask him "WHY DON"T YOU LIKE ME ENOUGH?????"
That's not the point. You need to reframe how you think about this.
He works, has a life, is busy grocery shopping, doing his laundry, gassing up his car, walking his dog, and is involved in all sorts of mundane things. He not calling probably has nothing to do with not liking you enough. Men aren't like women. Men don't have a dance card and spend all week filling it up. Men walk up to a woman on the dancefloor and say, "Hey. Wanna dance?" Men tend to be spontaneous and even impulsive.
Or, he's probably scared to death you will turn him down and is gathering up his courage to ask you out again. If he waits until the last minute and finally asks you, you might very well have other plans and will tell him no. Thus, his prophecy has been fulfilled: She doesn't like me enough.
Alright...his MO is to call around lunch time (when he calls). He never calls at night. I've been out with him three times now. I am having lunch with a couple of friends....I'll call him after that IF he hasn't called first. I just don't want to come off as chasing him. I like to be the one being persued.
I gotta ask, how old are you? You're looking into this WAYY too deep like a middle schooler.
Guys don't have MOs. We call when we want...when we have time...or when we think of you. We don't perform rituals. This is where the miscommunication lies most of the time between men and women. Women think we do certain things because we think certain ways...which isn't true a lot of the times.
I understand you want to be pursued...but really, a relationship's about equality. You chase him, he chases you...give and take.
c'mon...at 39, you gotta have this game down right?
really. don't worry too much about it. if he doesn't call, and you wanna see him, then call. guys actually LIKE it when girls call to ask them out. and i strongly doubt that it'll make him stop chasing you...if anything, it'll strengthen it (if he likes you) because he'll see that you like him as well.
I can't call him. We haven't dated enough for me to feel comfortable enough to call and ask him "WHY DON"T YOU LIKE ME ENOUGH?????"
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