I have been dating two guys and they seem very nice and likes me for who i am. My problem is that i don't want to be dating them at the same time for fear that they'll find out about each other. I really like both of them and would like to continue dating them, do u think that i should continue or i should leave one of them.
Guy number 2 really wants me to be his girlfriend but i cant decide who to choose from because Guy number 1 thinks that we are an item and i have known him longer than Guy number 2.
What should i do? Should i leave guy number 1 for guy number 2 ?

dooferdingle

shanny_2006

u were of no help thx

tamicka edwards

I think you should put it down on paper and who ever has the most good things about him wins but you have to be true

RubyPitbull

shanny, from what I am gathering from your other post you are still a virgin. Have you made a commitment to either one of them? Are they both pressuring you for a exclusivity, meaning, are they making it clear that THEY don't want to date anyone else but you?

When we are young, if there isn't an understanding that we are dating one person only, there is nothing that says you have to only date one guy. BUT, if you are seriously involved with boyfriend number 1 to the point that he believes you are dating him only and you are thinking about having sex with him, you need to take a step back and really think this whole thing through. Are you leaning toward guy #2 because guy #1 has made it clear he wants to have sex with you? Is this something that you REALLY want to do? I think Tamicka has come up with a good idea for you. Take two pieces of paper and write each guys name at the top of each sheet. Draw a line down the middle of both papers. On one side, put a heading that says "PRO" or "GOOD", on the other side of the line put a heading that says "CON" or "BAD". Write down what is good about each one, what you like about each one on the "good" side. Then, write down what you don't like about each one on the "bad" side. Keep a running list for the next week or two. When you feel that you have absolutely finished the lists, that you have really gotten everything down that you love about each one and that you don't like about each one, then look at the lists and compare them. The one that has more "good" than "bad" things is probably the one you should decide to be with. You want to make sure that whichever one it is, it will be the guy that will treat you right and who will treat you with the most respect.

GlindaofOz

If you aren't certain who you want to make a commitment to then I see nothing wrong with continuing to date both boys. When there is no commitment the idea is that both individuals are free to date other people.

If you feel pressured to choose figure out if that what you really want. If it isn't then tell them both you are enjoying just dating. If they get upset you may risk loosing both guys. But don't let that make you feel as if you have to "keep" one.

shayloveantwan

My suggestions to you will be to follow you heart not your mind because you mind may lead you in the wrong direction when it comes to love.Fromwhat you said thought you should stick with guy number 1 because you have known him longer. Not saying that he want change, but there is least probility that he will. On the other hand the other one has had as long has the first to show his true side, but follow your heart u the only one who knows. think of this to which one do you have to most feeling for? (only for ages 18 and up but any age probaly can try it) Tell them both to do something for you serious and see if one comes though better or quikier.

SnakeBite

I am a man and I always believed in dating one woman.
I can't understand how a woman can date two men at once? So on Friday you are intimate with John, tongue kissing, feeling, touching, caressing etc... And on Saturday you are intimate with Bob, tongue kissing, touching, feeling, caressing etc... And both guys know nothing about you dating another guy?
Well, I think that you are being "just plain sneaky," selfish and borderline sleazy...

SnakeBite

I agree with you. I clicked on the wrong one. Sorry!

angie_needs_help_101

ok first have a friend ask them about u that way u can see which knows u the best and whoever knows u the best choose him. and if u still have problems then which one do u have the most class with and/or ride the bus with? because whoever u have the most class with or ride the bus home then go out with them and if both then the guy who rides the bus home with u because then he will be able to save u a seat and u will have someone to talk to and hugs and sometimes kiss!