My boyfriends wife left him and we started seeing each other right after she left. Now she is acting crazy trying to kill herself and make threats that he wont see the kids anymore. We love each other very much. Should we continue our relationship or wait for them to divorce?

DJ 'H'

I see your point. Very true. But I think this guy has already left his wife and has a new girlfriend, but the wife wants him back - or do you think it still applies???

talaniman

If you two know each other so well then there has been some hanky-panky while he was married.So if a man cheats on his wife with 2 kids ,you mean he'd never do that to you huh!His wife is such a ***** that she drove him to your waiting arms?He is so true blue and you feel so sorry for him going thru changes with his WIFE that you just wanted to comfort him!She is acting so badly now that your ready to take her place, divorce or not?I have a sneaky suspicion that we will see your future post here........WHY IS HE CHEATING ON ME! Get a clue and let the man take care of his old business before you come jumping in with your own needs!

jenbry2007

well im in the same situation, im involved with a married man, and in march it'll be one year since our "fling" started. i remember in the beginning he was so nice, like he'd do anything for me, but now hes like it doesnt matter to me, but yet hes very overprotective and gets jealous easily. i remember a couple of weeks ago i said "oh you know you love me" and hes like well i cant deny that. we've never told each other that we love one another. so is he in a way telling me he loves me, or just saying this because he knows this is what i want to hear? i mean what do you do especially when your only 17 and hes 27 and he took your virginity, its hard just to be "done" with them. its easier said than done

Fr_Chuck

I will address one issue I did not see address by others.

He is married ( assuming a divorce over the next many months)
But he will always have an exwife and he will have "kids" by her. So this lady will be in his life till these kids are 18 and sometimes longer.

So she will keep saying nad doing things and trying to use the kids to hurt this person till you can start guess which attack she will use next time. So sorry but you can expect her to try and make your life a living hell till those kids are grown and on thier own. ( or she gets tired of doing it)

If he has not been seperated more than 4 or 5 months, you are most likely a rebound, someone to get him over or someone to be fun or different, very seldom does these relationship make it,

talaniman

Its easier said than done,but single people should leave married people alone,as far as those flings go.So now your probably seeing him the way his wife did .When he gets tired of you all he has to do is find another dumb female to run his lines on and then you'll really see what his wife went thru!

nwsflash

Damn that was put so well !!

Wildcat21

jenbry2007 - get out of that relationship NOW. That man is using you. You're a minor. PLEASE!!!! He doesn't love you - he tells you thinsg to string you along. Please get couseling and help NOW!!!

Cut off the sex and tell him to get a divorce...and then you can be together. I bet $1 million dollars he will be gone fast.

Married men will tell you anything to keep the sex going!!! Trust me.

You're to young to be involved with scum like that.

PLUS - it's probably illegal where you live.

TELL YOUR PARENTS ABOUT THIS NOW!!! Do you think they woudl approve???

jenbry2007

Wildcat21:

* im in counseling now, it sorta helps, im reading a book thats called "Why do they do that" about being in a abusive relationship since hes "mentaly" abusing me. but most of it i cant really relate to b/c im not around him 24/7. ya know?

*actually where i live its only legall if you have the parents permission

*my mom knows about it, and she did put a stop to it and that only lasted about month and a half and then i was rite back where i started, seeing him again, my mom found about that and she said well imnot goin to tell you to stop seeing him b/c if i do that you'll just find a way to see him. she said that she needs me to learn for myself about what kind of mistake this is, and blah blah blah, ya know? but im trying everyday to get out of this, its hard. i know its not easy and i know i should just end it but now that my hearts in it i just dont know.

Wildcat21

End it now. This is so unhealthy Hun. Please, this guy is a massive creep and you don't even realize it.

If it was OK he could tell his wife.

That one thing in life I've learned - if it's OK I can tell my Gal.

Just tell him GET LOST!!!! Wh ydo yo udo this? Stop ALL communication.

It's is abuse - not love - he's using you.

QUIt using your feelings and use LOGIC here. Women ALWASY get in trouble when they use their feelings.

jenbry2007

I KNOW, thats why its so stinking hard, b/c we use our feelings