I am dating a married man. I know it is wrong. He says he will leave his wife but it will be hard and wants me to give him time so he won't loose the respect of his grown children. I love him so much Do you think he will leave?

ordinaryguy

No.

s_cianci

Nope

BleedingLove_XOX

For the moment i would leave him to deal with his divorce that he is planing to make ! Stop seeing him until he makes his decision ... and when he has you know you dont have to worry ! He may or may not leave his wife .. with kids in the picture he seems pretty tied down ! There's not much you yourself can do but to back away from the situation at the moment !

J_9

Won't happen. Why should he? He's got his cake and he is eating it too.

shygrneyzs

Do you remember that odl saying, "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" Well, that does apply to you here. He is not going to leave his wife and family.

I agree with BleedlingLove who says leave him and do not have contact until he can show you he is divorced. Bet you a five bucks you never see that divorce paper.

danielnoahsmommy

you are not going to get any sympathy here. take a good look at yourself and m ove on, or is you self esteem so low as to stay?

lucyhnn

do you know what I think ? the man who leaves his wife and kids for another one will leave this one for the other and so on . destroying a house is unacceptable . tell him that you'll leave him to make up his mind then you make up yours too stop dating for a while and try to feel what if you were the one whose husband was cheating on what will you do and feel think about it carefully > cause believe me in those kind of relations the mistress is the only biggest looser.

brady1208

Iam was in a similar situation, and I know how hard it is to be that girl.. My boyfriend and I have been together a year and a half and it took him a while to actually leave. He always told me he never loved her they got married because she was pregnant and he wanted to do the "right thing" but I dealt with a lot of hard times before he left. He said he didnt know how to tell her it was going to hurt her alot. Which I understood he has been moved out for 9 months but I found out he was still with her 6 months after he moved out. Eventually he told her in front of both of us that he wanted to be with me and didnt love her the way he should. I know how hard it is to be in a situation like that everyone hates you and thinks youre a bad person and it sucks. I dont know if he will ever leave. If he really cares for you and is unhappy you should go on living your life and say your going to see other people if he really wants to be with you he will make a decision......

twinkiedooter

Years ago I was with a man who actually left his wife and moved in with me. He got a call from his wife that one of his sons had a serious problem (I can't remember what it was as it was so many years ago). He and I talked about this and I told him that I didn't think this was going to work out if his family was going to come between us. I helped him pack his bags to go back to her. I missed him but I got over it and never saw him again.

I got to thinking about this years later when I found a beautiful expensive ring he had given me and said to myself.... self you did the right thing as I know he loved his family and I would have been second fiddle forever (and I only liked to play first fiddle).

Please try to put some distance between him and you so you can see what your future is going to be having another family's crises to deal with as the wife will never let him alone if there are kids involved. Do you need the added extra stress and strain on yourself? No.

Please don't do this to yourself as it's not worth it in the end. Very, very, very few men leave their present wife and family for another woman.