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me andmy boyfriend have been together for about 4 months we are engaged and we lived together since the first day we started dating. it sounds like we move fast but everything feels right. i love him and he is not only by bf but my best friend he is the only one i have in this world. but he is very jealous like chick status if my phone rings or i got a txt he asks who and what did they say but my phone will be in another room and i havent even gotten qa chance to look at it yet! or ill wanna spend a couple days at my friend house and he wont let me go i have to have her come here! he works alot and yes it bothers me but i only think i does cuz he never lets me do anything i have to have him with me! i only have one chick friend and the rest are guys and im not aloud to hang out with them! last night we were invited to go to a fire with my ex and his girl and me and my boyfriend and my friend was over and my ex and my bf are good friends they went to school and everything.. anyways... i wanted to go early cuz my bf was still at wrk and wouldnt be home till later and i got yelled at cuz i wasnt goin to wait for him!!! its b.s how i have to run everything by him and i cant do anything with out him. he gets mad at me for stupid all the time and then i get mad and he turns it all around on me!! then threatens to leave me cuz i at him!!! that happened bout a week ago he came home told me to pack my and leave i was so hurt and begged him to stay and i just let him wlk all over me just so he wouldnt leave me but then i found out he was tlking to his ex and sending and reciving pics and he told me he would never lie and i had a feeling bou ti the whole time and he would lie to my face and gert mad at me for accusing him when in reality he was rlly doing it and that was the third time he liked bout his ex...
i just dnt know what do it anymore i dnt wanna leave him cuz im so in love with him but i cant keep putting up with this and doing it to myself... what should i do???
Wow, sounds like you have got a lot on your hands, Believe me I know all about the moving fast and jealousy, my fiance and I have been together for two yrs and he works out of town most of the time, which makes him very jealous. I was just like you, I had all guy friends and what not, but you have to make a choice, which one is more important, your guy friends or "the love of your life" lets face it, no guys likes to feel threatened by another guy and thats exactly what happens when you wanna hang out with your guys friends while he isnt around. As far as him still talking to his ex, give him an ultimatium either its you or her and if he chooses her yeah its gonna hurt like hell, but atleast you didnt waste half your life on someone who didnt love you
It sounds to me like the bad outweighs the good. You've only been together for 4 months. That isn't very long. You're still getting to know each other. It may have felt right at the beginning before you got to know how controlling and jealous he is.
I would get out of this situation. There's no need to get stuck in it by getting married.
Whoa! Slow down to about 78 RPM here first of all. Living together since "the first day you started dating?" And engaged after only 4 months?
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it sounds like we move fast but everything feels right
No, it doesn't ; otherwise you wouldn't be on here posting. It sure doesn't sound right, that's for sure. You're "so in love with him" yet you "can't keep putting up with this." Well I don't blame you for that ; I wouldn't put up with it either. It sounds like you're in a very unhealthy situation. He is extremely controlling and possessive. I'm sorry, but he hardly sounds very lovable to me. And I doubt that things will get any better.
I wanna know how i can get him to back off a lill bit so i can breath and have space every ten sec he wants a kiss and if its not good or long enough i hve to give another one and i always have to be snuggling with him and up his azzz ugh im 18 and smart and beautiful i wanna live life and i wanna with him but he keep holding me back and not giving me air to breath
Sounds to me like you need to have a long talk with him. I was curious if you'd already set a date for the wedding since you said you were engaged. Marriage isn't something to rush into, especially when you're asking how to get him to back off. That's a good indication that this relationship isn't going to work.
Sounds to me like you need to have a long talk with him. I was curious if you'd already set a date for the wedding since you said you were engaged. Marriage isn't something to rush into, especially when you're asking how to get him to back off. That's a good indication that this relationship isn't going to work.
You're 18. You have your whole life ahead of you. Don't settle for the jealous and controlling boyfriend. Trust me. Do a lot of thinking before you make any kind of wedding plans.
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