Dating for about a month.

i say you tell her straight up, ask her hows she feeling.. if she really trusts you and the relationship, i'm SURE she'll tell you how she feels,, maybe shes just going through some personal issues that she hasnt told anyone about, it could definetly be related to coming off the pills, but if shes your girlfriend, go and ask her whats up, make sure shes telling the truth cause girls WILL try and hide unless they know you really want to listen to whats going on with em
hope that helps!

Alright so I guess I'll start from the beginning. I met this girl in late November and we started talking and everything started off great. We went on our first date December 22 and we spent about 12 hours together the first day, it was pretty amazing. The next few dates we went on over winter break was the same story, anywhere from 9-12 hours hanging out. Things were moving along pretty quick and we were hitting it off very well. We both are very compatible, both have similar sense of humors and share a lot of the same interests. We actually had sex a few times as well and it was pretty damn good lol. We also did a few sleepovers over one anothers apartment. Suffice to say everything seemed to be going amazing. By the way we are both in college, I'm 22 and she is 20.
Then school started again on January 7 and she immediately started to back off which is understandable, priorities come first. But I started getting a little anxious and I started to almost cling to her, but not become overbearing or anything though. As the last few weeks have gone by she has become even more increasingly distant. Lately, she has become short with me through texting and just this weekend on I think 2 or 3 occasions hasn't even responded to me.
We actually had a conversation last thursday where she basically said she wants no commitment right now and she can't handle it emotionally, she also talked about her ex boyfriend which they had broken up only a month and a half before we started talking (I knew this and they had dated on and off for about a year and a half). I told her that I respect her feelings 100% and I would like to continue to see her and see what happens. She agreed to this which was awesome. Although like I said this past weekend she was really distant. The bad part is that when she gets more distant I get more clingy, its almost like I have separation anxiety. Even her friends have said to me to take it slow and don't overthink things, but I end up doing the opposite and I don't know why. Its like I'm shooting myself in the foot. I will be the first to admit that I am not going about this the right way and I am overthinking and yes I have been clingy.
I honestly really like this girl and would like to see this go somewhere because this is the first girl I've met where I can actually be myself. I text her last night asking when the last text she got from was and got no response (I know stupid, just checking on her). Several of my friends have told me to not contact her and wait for her to contact me, which I plan on doing as of right now, I believe we are still on valentines day but I am a little unsure of plans. So what should I do here?

Definitely don't want to be clingy in a situation like this. If she's saying she isn't looking for a relationship right now then you don't want to be all over her making yourself look like you want to marry her. You want to be there for her but you can't be there all the time. Saying your respecting her 100% was the way to go. I'd act like friends for now, hang out casually if you miss her but don't try to get with her or anything until shes sure you're what she wants. Try to control your anxiety if that's making you clingy, assure yourself that you're not going to lose her unless you chase her off, worst thing that can happen is that you guys just stay friends. For her being distant than maybe she's confused. she may be thinking of her ex, someone else, or if she's ready to take on someone else(you). Not sure what else to say for this. Hope this was of some help.

I don't think it hurts to invite her out for dinner on Valentine's Day. It will be up to her on whether she wants to show up.

Sounds like she needs a little space and it's best for you to give it to her. Show her that you respect her space. She doesn't need checking up on, she's a big girl. She will find you when the time comes. Until then, it's easier said than done, but it's best to distract yourself as much as possible.

She already knows how you feel, so you don't need to push it onto her more. Be patient and respecting her space is another way of showing the girl that you care bout her.

Ya i totally agree with you, its kind of a crummy situation because i want to be with her. I was going to wait for the weekend to text her and see what was going on and depending on whatever answer from her, see what happens. I think the best thing for sure is to distance myself for now and give her some breathing room. I mean I dont think she is just gonna forget about me that quick, ya know??

Sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder. Give her some time to think about you and to miss you. We have no idea what's going to happen, it's also possible that she could drift further away from you.

For now, respect her wishes of wanting space. While you wait, focus on making yourself a better person. Keep doing things for yourself and when she comes to find you, she will have a few surprises waiting for her right?

ya i hear whats you're saying but let me ask you, what do you think is I guess you could say, a good amount of time to give her space? I was thinking till the weekend.

i should also mention that the last time i spoke to her was on sunday night when i asked what the last text she received from me was, i had sent her a text earlier saying i was gonna visit her at work and get a work out in (she works at the school gym) and she didnt even acknowledge that, kinda bugged me. she said congrats on the giants winning the super bowl later in the night and then i mentioned that our phones never get each others texts (this has been happening since day 1) then i said to her if i could call her (no response) and i went to call her a few minutes later and her phone was shut off, this was i think at 11:30 at night, right after she gets off work. I thought that was odd and I guess I took the hint to finally back off.

I suggest that you don't look for her utnil she looks for you first. Anything you do will seem pushy at this point because it's obvious that she's trying to ignore you. So don't force the issue.

Give up when your heart gives up on her. As long as you still have feelings for her, you will continue to naturally wait for her anyway.

ya i think im gonna stick to my plan this weekend and see where it takes me, im gonna be real casual about it and we'll see what happens