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    kristin7189 Posts: 7, Reputation: 1
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    Dec 14, 2006, 04:51 PM
    Date my ex again?
    Me and my ex of over a year are still in love... very much. But he doesn't want to get back together because he thought I was too needy and we ended up getting in fights too much (which was all my fault, I took him for granted) we agreed to keep being best friends, but now he decided that we shouldn't talk anymore because we need time to get over each other. How do I get him back? I don't want him to get over me because I know I've changed and I could make him so happy! I can't tell him how I feel because it'll be too needy, yet I can't just let him walk away because he needs to see how great I am! No other guys interest me... not even to hook up with, he's the only guy for me.
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    Dec 14, 2006, 04:57 PM
    Move on, This should be the advice of the year because I say it so often. AN EX IS AN EX FOR A REASON.

    Joe
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    Dec 14, 2006, 04:59 PM
    The thing that gets me is if you are both still in love... very much, then why are you broken up and he does not want to get back together. It seems as though you are in love, but he no longer is.

    While it is good that you have learned what you have done wrong in a relationship, it would be equally as good to respect his wishes and put the No Contact rule into effect.

    If you know you have changed, then by all means do as he says and do not contact him. That will show that you are not as needy as you used to be.

    Your post screams Me... Me... Me... What about him? It takes two to make a relationship and right now he does not want to be part of this relationship.
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    Dec 14, 2006, 05:30 PM
    I don't mean to sound harsh here but...
    You wanted to date again... he said no thanks... what part of that don't you believe?

    You may find all kinds of information in the world about all the tricks and tactics you can use to "win him back" but if you look around in the real world, you'll see that it doesn't work a huge percentage of the time. And when it does, its often just another break up down the road. Get real here and realise he said no thanks.
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    Dec 14, 2006, 07:46 PM
    Why does he cry to m eon the phone then and tell me how much he wants to hold me but he can't? I don't understand, is he just leading me on? There has to be some feeling there... I just wish I could show him he CAN hold me and take it slow without jumping back into another relationship... guys are so hard to read!
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    Dec 14, 2006, 08:00 PM
    Who cares, He is your ex. Good bye and good riddons. Stop talking to him. It is over. Move on. Do you want to continue playing these games and eventually go insane, unless you are already crazy. Or do you want a fresh start, that means stop these phones contact. Of course, there may be something there. Whenever you were with anybody there was feelings do you think they ever go away completely probably not. That does not mean it will work if there are some still there. Ex is an Ex for a reason. I think I am going nuts and crazy because I see this time and time again. Why don't others see it for what it really is and move on from the past. Move forward to the future.
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    Dec 15, 2006, 06:06 AM
    One of my pet peeves is starting a new thread and asking the same question.
    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...-ex-47421.html
    You may think that a new thread will have different answers, but as you are seeing , this is not the case, so take what you have in both threads and think about it, and either do it or leave it alone.
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