So this is the first time I've ever made a mistake like this, but i fear it has caused irreparable damage to our relationship.

What happened was; a female friend of ours was kicked out of her parents house and my girlfriend and I offered our couch to her. well sometime during the night after many many alcoholic beverages the girlfriend told the friend to join us in bed and we all kind of layed there and talked. eventually my girlfriend fell asleep and me and the other female continued to talk. i dont remember much of this night.

I remember my girlfriend asking me to put my hand on her heart and then writing in a text message on her phone that she did not send out to me "how did you like kissing another girl?" now i dont remember this and i know that is no excuse but we kept hanging out for a few days after that and i thought we were starting to get things straight, out of the blue about 3-4 days ago she gets in touch with me on AIM, while i am at work, and tells me she can't be with me right now and needs some time to her self. anything i say to her makes her angry and she has been spending a lot of time going out with friends and or family and she keeps telling me she loves me but we had plans to see one another and she just totally stopped responding in text messages untill this morning

She told me that she was on her way over and she got sick thinking about it =\
and was up with her mother all night. now my question is;

Is it over? her family hates me now (I had a great relationship with her family prior to this) and she can not even stand to see me. Granted it has only been one week. . . but i don't know what to do about the whole situation. there is nothing i can do to let her know how much i love her and that i would never knowingly hurt her but it is not making it easier for her to come see me.

any help would be greatly appreciated and i am ready for and accept all of the "you are an idiot" messages and will not respond with hateful reply's as i already know this.

DoulaLC

I'm sorry you are having to go through this....relationship issues are never fun.

You are right, you need to find an outlet....get out with friends and family more, get some daily exercise (outdoors if possible), spend time on a hobby or start one, rent some movies, walk during a break at work, the point is you may have to force yourself to do things, but it is important that you do so.

Again, you have made it clear to her how you feel and that you want the relationship to continue....there is not much more you can do. Respond when she texts or e-mail you....maybe let her know you are thinking about her every now and then, if you want....send her flowers with a nice note and let her know you are looking forward to hearing from her if you feel you need to do something more right now, but then try your best to not push it. The not knowing is difficult to be sure, but the ball really is in her court now.

krzekali89

inviting another girl into the same bed as you and your girlfriend isnt that big of a deal. my boyfriend and i have been together for two years i invite my girlfriends to sleepin the bed with us, of course i lay in the middle and cuddle with my baby all night, but still if i feel close enough to a girl then i would too. esp if i was drinking!

second she probally feels hurt because of what you did. she put all of her trust into you and this girl but you broke her heart. my boyfriend had these girls called 'myspace girls' (this was when we were still in h.s. and have only been dating for 6 months but still) and he would talk to these girls as if they were his g.f. i logged into his myspace and saw this and i bugged out. the thought that i had made love to this man, and shared my life with him just for him to turn around and treat other girls (who he never met) like me was appaulling. i didnt kiss him for a month. he made me sick. eventually i spent the night at his house and he held me all night and told me how much he loved me and that he was so sorry and he logged into his myspace and showed me that e told all of those girls the truth and he made his myspace devoted to me. and altough i wasn't planning on getting back with him, i did love him and i wanted him back more then anything so our relationship got better. give her time to sort things out in her head. give her time to forgive you. make her want to forgive you. tell the other girl that you are in love and that you are sorry for what happened that night.

if you want to fix this broken relationship that is the way to do it. time is the best though...that is the only thing to heal the hurt you put on to her. believe it or not it sounds like she loves you to still be communicating with you and to let you hold her.

i hope i helped and best of luck to you and your girlfriend. i wish the best.

krzekali89

and just to clear it up before people start bugging on me... i only let my 2 really close girlfriends sleep in bed with me and my b.f. If i am drunk im a mess and would invite anyone... im a 2 beer queer so if your g.f. is like that then i understand. Just so everyone knows that.

krzekali89

ok...well...did i say every night? did i say every week? no. like once and a while when my g.f.s spend the night. i live 100 miles away from them so... yea. like you know once a year .. maybe once every 8/9 months...haha sumetimes every 2 years. not on a regualr basis. ive been friends with them since elementary school.

brokeherheart

So i text her at 12: something today and asked how she was and it is now 6:23 and i haven't gotten a response =\ guess that answers my question's thank you all for your help <33

xoxaprilwine

I don't get how other women invite their gf into their beds with hubby or bf??? Ok she sleeps with me alone, spare room or even on the couch but NOT with my man...I guess with a few drinks anyone can make that mistake.

Oh and I have been soo drunk as blacking out (not remembering what I did) but I don't invite promiscuous situations in my house rather get into fights...that is why I don't drink a lot or go to bars anymore...I am a mommy now and have different priorities but I just wanted to comment to the disagreement to your post.

N0help4u

Regular basis or not or once in a blue moon it is not normal. Most people let guests sleep on the sofa or anywhere BUT their bed with them and their bf.

xoxaprilwine

What side do you think the OP was? Or was he in the middle? Because I agree, if they where just laying there talking then why wouldn't his gf arrange it so bf wasn't sleeping beside the gf just her? Does that make sense or am I crazy?

xoxaprilwine

Haha...my point exactly

brokeherheart

gf was in the middle