It seems i can never keep a relationship....the longest ive had is 4 months...the shortest 2 day....on average somewere between 2 to 4 weeks tops....most of my relationships happend after the 4 month one....and ive just never really gotten over her exspecally after this summer what happend....she competely broke my heart...but even b4 then when we were just broken up in December i couldnt keep a relationship....i would like the girl everything about her and then just not didnt really care about her like i thought i did...then theres i just can make up my mined on who i want....so i just dont know...if you have anything for me i would love to hear it
Justin

LearningAsIGo

You're young and this is completely normal. You just haven't found the right girl... nothing wrong with that! Believe me.. the longest relationship I had before my husband was 8 weeks (but I spent 3 weeks trying to break up with him). When I met hubby, we moved in together after 2 weeks and that was 8 years ago.

At this point, do you want a long-term relationship? If not, fine! If so, try looking at the bigger picture. Are you picking girls that are very different from you? Not ready to commit themselves? Are you doing anything negative (not spending time with her, etc.) to ruin a relationship? I bet you learn a little something during each of your relationships... those experiences will help you when you meet THE girl for you.

punkrock58

i do....the thing is i think i found my love of my life....but she dosent want me anymore...and i dont think i pick girls that are to different then me at times i do yes....them they seem they want to commit....i always try to spend as much time as i can with them...the thing is i just loose interest with the girl really quickly i dont know its like i cant keep a good feeling about them

victoria_mitchell

You're rushing things. You don't get over somebody by getting another somebody. You need to get over this girl and THEN go looking for another relationship not the other way around. And I'm sure you're a nice guy so consider the fact that it's not nice of you to go out with someone when you have feelings for ANYONE else let alone an ex girlfriend.

Good luck

punkrock58

ive realized this...but the thing is not matter what...i honestly cant stop thinking about her...and it pains me everyday that i know it seems like i will never get her back...sure im a nice guy all and all....im also a heart breaker...witch i dont mean to be...it just turns out to be like that....its been over 8 months since we broke up and i still cant get over her and ive tried...beleave me. And i know that having feelings for someone while ur going out with someone else is wrong thats why i break it off cause that other person deseaves better than that

Oracleofwisdom

the more u try to hold on to something the more u are likly to push it away. i think you should seek counciling there anre issues her that go way deeper than keeping a relationship. there is possibly something in your past that is holding you back it could b fear or insecurity a number of things go to a counciler trust me it seems wimpish but it helps.

punkrock58

Oracle i know im holding back...i always do even with the girl i cant get over i held back from her...i wish i never did...but i did...and ive gone to a counciler i honestly have no issues with it...but i havent gone to one in a while so havent had a chance to talk about this.

Oracleofwisdom

i feel for you my friend I really do. its hard to b honest. try doin it via a letter e mail whatever if that is easier but explain it explain u find it hard women understand they really do. they love sensative men.
and your sensative, you just cant release it. u have to be open and honest. u need a better counciler tell them i said u have deeper issues they can explor what they are u probs know i dont i just know u have them. tell me if im wrong. all the best.

punkrock58

lol nope im always honest...i just make things seem less than what they appear...im a really nice guy lots of ppl i know come to me to talk about there problems and ask for advice...but i never really...like really let my problems out...i havent been to a counciler in over 5 months

Dennis777

Hello.

Its hard to get over a person but you will, the key is stop thinking about her and the way to do that is keep busy so you don't have time to think about her. Finding Girls to replace her isn't the answer right now because your going to see your ex in them all the time. You need to get your own life back together before you try to have a relationship.

IM not sure if your around your ex a lot but if you are stop that also. many times its best to find a few new friends so your not always reminded of your ex.

Good Luck
Dennis777