okayy. so im not stupid and i said no...
but what do i do...
dont ask about my other questions bc those are still true.
but okay so this 21 yr old, my friend..
asked me out!! and i said no bc im 13!!
but for Valentines Day he got me a rose and a cat stuffed animal... it was cute..
but i mean his last gf let him spend 2,800$ on her for prom.
and she stood him up... ):
and i dont want to reject him bc hes been through that.. but seriously...
how do i tell him no? (i told him i'd think about it)
thnks.

J_9

Tell him that you don't want to see him go to jail and be labeled a sex offender for the rest of his life.

Fr_Chuck

sorry any 21 year old that wants to date a 13 year old has to have seroius problems of some type since that is as close to being a pediphile as you can get. You say no, since it is just not proper by any standard.

Also perhaps telling your parents and allow them to talk to him about it, could be helpful.

JBeaucaire

To be fair, he could be a very immature 21 yr old and she a very mature looking 13 year old. Still, in our American culture it's a loser so you're right to say no.

How do I tell him "no"? Don't see him again, call him and calmly say, "No. I'm not interested. I'm not playing hard to get, you're too old and I'm not interested. Don't ask me anything like that ever again. I don't want to have to get my parents involved."

That should do it.

J_9

You need to talk to an trusted adult immediately about this man. Even though he may be "immature" as was mentioned above. Most 21 year olds are not attracted to 13 year olds. They are out for one thing and one thing only.

You need to talk to your parents so that no other child is ever put in danger from this man.

friend4u178

A 21 year old guy trying to ask out a 13 year old girl is just plain WRONG , don't become another statistic. What do you think your Mother and Father would think of this?
And if he tries to make you feel bad about saying no or at anytime makes you feel uncomfortable tell your parents straight away. GEEZ whats the world coming to.

cal823

You should at least tell him before he spends any more, so what happened before doesnt happen again to him.
I am so sick of so many "hes alot older than me" questions on this forum, what on earth is happening to the world?

Curious0-1

YEA! That's kind of strange. I would say a red flag. I would stay away, even though I'm sure you are flattered... And naive... But really think about that. His intentions are far different than your butterflies, flying over the clouds type of crush. Just be careful. And I would talk to an adult abou this, he could have some intentions that are inappropriate.

kitten94515

i dont like him at all. hes cool to hang out with, bc ive known him for a while. and i think my dad would kill me. lol. i DID talk to him and suppostedly, he knew i was 13... but my friend who is 17 she told him I WAS 17 so thats why. shes not my friend anymore, and i dont even talk to him. i know for a fact i wasnt gonna do ne thing with him. hes just a poor lonely man.