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Old Mar 22, 2007, 03:49 AM
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Cheating once off

Im in a long distance relationship and recently in a nightclub i hooked up with a guy. No sex no touchy feely just hooked up. It was completely un expected and i didnt even no the guys name. Problem is i have a boyfriend back at home. I dont think i should tell him because it was a silly mistake and would just cause all sorts of grief. Do you think it would be worth telling when i no it will neva happen again?!

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Old Mar 22, 2007, 03:53 AM   #2  
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No, don't tell him, if you don't think it was that serious and you definately won't do it again then you will only end up hurting your current fella by telling him. He will then always worry that you will be doing the same or worse!

Out of sight, out of mind!

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X-stream87 disagrees: You should not lie to your boyfriend/grilfriend trust is the most important aspect of any relationship.
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Old Mar 22, 2007, 07:14 AM   #3  
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You should tell him, a relationship cant survive without trust and if you tell him he may get mad but aslong as you explain the exactly what happend he might forgive you, you might just have to regain his trust but you should never keep something like this from your boyfriend, if i where him i would not be able to trust you for awhile but the fact that you where willing to him what happend shows that your sorry and that in some way he can trust you.

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iAMfromHuntersBar disagrees: I disagree totally with you, why tell your partner about something that isn't that serious that will only make them doubt all your future actions! It's a pointless exercise that will actually break the 'trust' that you're talking about!
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If you just talked and had drinks with the guy then tell him, if your both adults and you make it clear it there was no sex or touching then he might not like it but shouldnt freak out. It sounds more like you were making a friend than cheating, girls can have guy friends and your BF should be okay with this.
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You met a friendly person at the club and shared a beverage - once. It's not like you are on the prowl for sexual attention and doing this all the time. There's nothing to to feel guilty about and nothing to "confess" over.

Making a big deal out of something so simple truely is "making a mountain out of a mole hill".
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THAT WAS A REALLY DUMB MOVE on your part.

sorry to say but you never go to a nightclub knowing things can happen when you already have a boyfriend back at home.

now youre in this dilemma, see? now was it worth it?
and right now youre deciding to tell him or not, a real woman would tell thier boyfriend anything, its called TRUST.

but if you dont tell him, what does that say about the relationship?

i just hope you know, things done in the dark, always comes to the light.

so even if you dont tell him, eventually he IS going to find out.

so in a sense, it doesnt matter what you did at the club, the point is, YOU WENT AND HOOKED UP WITH SOME GUY, which was not your boyfriend.

friendly or not, doesnt matter what you did. for all we know you could be holding out on the truth.
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